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Have you heard of the orange peel theory?
你听说过橙皮理论吗？
This is one of those TikTok theories that floated about, in which a person would ask their partner to peel an orange for them.
这是TikTok上流传的理论之一，一个人会要求伴侣帮他剥橙子。
If the partner would do it, that was meant to be a statement on the partner's willingness to take a minute to do something. That is not easy and a little messy and sticky.
如果伴侣愿意这样做，那就意味着伴侣愿意花一分钟时间做某事。这并不容易，而且有点麻烦。
And that may be a larger marker for their willingness to listen and help and engage in acts of service and not just be limited to helping out when it's easy.
这可能更能表明他们愿意倾听、帮助和参与服务行为，而不仅限于在容易的时候提供帮助。
The belief was if they wouldn't do this, it could be a small red flag. I think you may be painting yourself into a corner if you just stick to orange peeling.
人们认为，如果他们不愿意剥橙子，这可能是一个小小的危险信号。我认为，如果你只是坚持剥橙子，你可能会让自己处于困境。
And you may want to expand your repertoire to things like will you fold the load of laundry or will you take the trash cans out.
你可能想扩大你的技能范围，比如叠衣服和扔垃圾。
I mean some people may be grossed out by orange peeling but may step up on other tasks.
我的意思是，有些人可能会对剥橙子感到恶心，但可能会加紧做其他任务。
Relationships over time are shaped by how we respond to the small asks, the day-to-day stuff that needs to get done.
随着时间的推移，我们如何回应小要求、如何应对需要完成的日常事务，会影响亲密关系。
It's easy to peel a banana, but a willingness to stop and do the orange may speak to a willingness to be responsive, to take time, to attend to the other person in the relationship and participate in the reciprocity.
剥香蕉很容易，但愿意停下来剥橙子可能表明愿意做出回应、愿意花时间、愿意照顾另一半并互相帮助。
That is a relationship but let's face it. If you level up and find someone who's willing to peel and open up a mango for you, well, they may really be a keeper.
这就是一段亲密关系，但让我们面对现实吧。如果你升级要求，并找到一个愿意为你剥芒果的人，那么，他们可能真的值得拥有。
