评论
打印
What is modern monogamy?
什么是现代一夫一妻制？
Modern monogamy is a new term that taps into the awareness that while a person may value a long-term committed monogamous relationship with someone,
现代一夫一妻制是个新术语，基于这样一种认识，即虽然一个人可能重视与某人长期的一夫一妻制关系，
there is also the recognition that people change over the span of a lifetime and that monogamy is not just about sheer endurance but about knowing when to step away,
但人一生中会发生变化。一夫一妻制不仅仅是纯粹忍耐彼此，而且是知道何时离开对方，
because neither partner is growing or flourishing in the relationship.
因为双方在这段关系中有没有成长。
It's important to remember that what we wanted at 20 is different than at 40 and at 60.
重要的是要记住，20岁时想要的与40岁和60岁时想要的不同。
Modern monogamy is predicated on both people in a relationship being aware of each other.
现代一夫一妻制的前提是恋爱关系中的双方都了解彼此。
It's not about one person waking up one day because they found someone new and shiny and cutting bait.
并不是说因为找到了一个闪闪发光的人，某人某天突然醒悟，结束关系。
Modern monogamy also isn't about a person always on the make or trying to find someone better.
现代一夫一妻制也不是指一个人总是在努力寻找更好的人。
It's about being fully present in a relationship but also being honest with yourself and your partner when the ground starts to shift.
而是指全身心投入一段关系，但当情况开始发生变化时，也要城市对待自己和伴侣。
It's meant to create a safe space to grow and be aware of when we grow in different ways.
现代一夫一妻制旨在创造一个安全的成长空间，并在我们以不同方式成长时意识到这一点。
But I can tell you for certain it may not be for everyone.
但我可以肯定地告诉你，这可能并不适用于所有人。
