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Hey, Psych2Goers. Do you believe in the importance of privacy?
嘿，Psych2Go的观众们。你相信隐私的重要性吗？
Some people certainly do.
有些人当然会认为很重要。
And if you live a life without it, like many celebrities and public figures, it's easy to understand why it's so important to keep some things in your life to yourself.
如果你的生活就像许多名人和公众人物一样没有隐私，就很容易理解为什么对生活中的一些事情保密是如此重要。
As British author, C. S. Lewis once said, "We live in a world starved for solitude, silence and privacy.
正如英国作家刘易斯曾所说：“我们生活在一个渴望孤独、沉默和隐私的世界。
And therefore we are starved for meditation and true friendship."
因此，我们渴望冥想和真正的友谊。”
Because no matter how much we may want to open up, and share our true selves with others, the kind of connection we crave for can only be satisfied if we respect our own privacy, and be careful about who we let in.
因为无论我们多么想敞开心扉，与他人分享真实的自我，我们渴望的那种联系只有在我们尊重自己的隐私、小心选择让谁进来的情况下才能得到满足。
So here are seven things you're definitely better off keeping private.
所以，这里有七件事你最好还是保密。
Number one, your family problems.
第一，你的家庭问题。
Sometimes you are better off keeping your family problems to yourself because the truth is, everyone has them but no one really wants to hear about them.
有时候，你最好把你的家庭问题藏起来，因为事实是，每个人都有这些问题，但没有人真的想听他们说。
Anyway, the issues between you, and your family stay between you and your family.
不管怎样，你和你家人之间的问题只在你和你家人之间。
Getting other people involved will only stir up more trouble than it's worth.
让其他人参与进来只会激起更多的麻烦。
So next time someone tries to stick their nose in your family's business, simply steer the conversation to another topic or tell them you prefer to keep it private.
因此，下次有人试图插手你的家族事务时，只需把话题引到另一个话题上，或者告诉他们你更喜欢保密。
Number two, your relationship issues.
第二，你们的关系问题。
Just like how you should keep your family problems within your family, it's better to keep your relationship issues within your relationship as well.
就像你应该如何把你的家庭问题留在你的家庭一样，最好把你的关系问题也留在你的关系中。
Complaining too much about or significant other is only going to paint them in a bad light, and although your anger, and frustration might pass, others might not be so forgiving.
对他人抱怨太多只会让他们变得不好，虽然你的愤怒和沮丧可能会过去，但其他人可能不会那么宽容。
They might take you confiding your romantic troubles to them to mean that they have a say in your relationship, which they don't.
他们可能会认为你向他们倾诉你的恋情意味着他们在你们的关系中有发言权，但实际上他们没有。
Of course, if you're having issues with your relationship and need to confide in your friends, that's completely understandable.
当然，如果你的关系有问题，需要向朋友倾诉，这是完全可以理解的。
Number three, your income or financial situation.
第三，你的收入或财务状况。
It's something of an unspoken social rule, that it's generally considered rude to talk about money because no matter how much you make or aren't making, talking about your financial situation to other people is bound to either make them feel jealous, uncomfortable, or sorry for you.
这是一条不成文的社会规则，谈论金钱通常被认为是不礼貌的，因为无论你赚了多少钱，跟别人谈论你的财务状况肯定会让他们感到嫉妒、不舒服或为你难过。
Complaining about being broke or comparing how much money you make with other people is never a good idea.
抱怨自己破产了，或者拿自己赚了多少钱和别人比较，从来都不是个好主意。
After all, there's not much they can do about it so what's the point?
毕竟，他们对此无能为力，那么这有什么意义呢？
Better to just keep that between you, and your bank account.
最好还是对你的银行账户保密。
Number four, your fears and weaknesses.
第四，你的恐惧和弱点。
Talking about our fears and weaknesses takes us to a very vulnerable place.
谈论我们的恐惧和弱点会把我们带到一个非常脆弱的地方。
And it's a side of us, we shouldn't show to just anyone.
这是我们的一面，我们不应该向任何人展示。
Some people can be incredibly two-faced, and might just make fun of you behind your back.
有些人可能非常两面派，可能只会在背后取笑你。
While others might try to manipulate, and exploit you when given the chance.
而其他人可能会试图操纵你，并在有机会时剥削你。
Others still might not understand or empathize with you, which is only going to make you feel worse.
其他人可能仍然不理解或不同情你，这只会让你感觉更糟。
So before you tell anyone your worries or past mistakes, you need to be absolutely sure that they can be trusted.
因此，在你告诉任何人你的担忧或过去的错误之前，你需要绝对确保他们是可信的。
Number five, your dreams and goals.
第五，你的梦想和目标。
It's probably for the best that you keep most of your dreams and goals in life to yourself.
生活中的大部分梦想和目标都留给自己可能是最好的。
The more people you share them with, the less motivated you're likely to become.
与你分享的人越多，你就越不可能变得有动力。
Why?
为什么？
Because people always have something to say.
因为人们总有话要说。
And if you invite them into the conversation, they might try to fill your mind with criticisms, doubts and discourage you, especially if they can't understand why you want this or that.
如果你邀请他们参与谈话，他们可能会试图用批评、怀疑和气馁填满你的头脑，特别是如果他们不能理解你为什么想要这样或那样的话。
Don't worry too much about that though.
不过，不要太担心这一点。
It's not for them to understand.
这不是他们能理解的。
Your dreams are your own, and you deserve to nurture them with the peace of mind only privacy can bring.
你的梦想是你自己的，你应该用只有隐私才能带来的内心平静来培育它们。
Numbers six, your personal secrets.
第六，你的个人秘密。
While this is something a lot of us learn at a young age, we should always be careful about who we choose to divulge our personal secrets too.
虽然这是我们很多人在很小的时候就知道的事情，但我们也应该始终小心选择谁来吐露我们的个人秘密。
Do you really know this person?
你真的认识这个人吗？
Are you sure they can be trusted to keep your secrets, and not spread it for gossip or use it against you next time you get into a fight?
你确定他们可以为你保守秘密，不会在你下次打架时散布谣言或用它来攻击你吗？
If you're not careful about who you trust, it could lead to a lot of embarrassment, pain and heartbreak for you down the road.
如果你不注意选择你信任的人，这可能会给你带来很多尴尬、痛苦和心碎。
So make sure you trust who you share your secrets with.
所以，确保你要信任你分享秘密的人。
And number seven. Other people's secrets.
还有第七点。别人的秘密。
Similar to the previous point.
与前面的观点类似。
If someone trusts you enough to tell you something in confidence, then it simply wouldn't be right to do anything to break their trust or jeopardize your relationship with them.
如果有人足够信任你，私下告诉你一些事情，那么做任何破坏他们的信任或破坏你与他们的关系的事情都是不正确的。
It might not have been easy for them to share that with you, and letting other people know about it without their consent could be very upsetting to them.
对他们来说，与你分享这件事可能并不容易，而且在没有得到他们同意的情况下让其他人知道这件事可能会让他们非常不安。
Just imagine how humiliated, and betrayed you might feel if someone did that to you.
想象一下，如果有人这样对你，你可能会感到多么羞辱和背叛。
You wouldn't wish that for anyone else now would you?
你现在不会希望其他人也是这样吧？
So what do you think?
你是怎么想的？
Do you keep these things to yourself?
你把这些东西都藏起来了吗？
And what other things do you think are better to keep private?
你认为还有哪些事情最好保密？
If you have any more tips or suggestions, leave them in the comments down below.
如果你有更多的提示或建议，请在下面的评论中留言。
And remember, these are not hard rules that you should always stick to.
记住，这些并不是你应该一直遵守的硬性规则。
Every situation is different, and it's important to talk about things that stress you out as long as it's with someone trustworthy.
每种情况都是不同的，只要是和值得信赖的人在一起，谈论让你感到压力的事情是很重要的。
