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How can you deal with a friendship breaking?
你该如何处理友谊破裂的问题？
While we want our romantic relationships to last, we know deep down that most don't stick around forever.
虽然我们希望我们的恋爱关系能够长久，但我们内心深处知道，大多数关系都不会永远持续下去。
But we sort of assume our friends will always be there and sometimes it's best to end things in friendships because they're just not working anymore.
但我们似乎认为朋友会一直陪伴着我们，有时最好结束友谊，因为物是人非。
You're going to grieve just like the end of any relationship. That means a lot of sadness, anger, maybe even some relief.
你会像任何一段关系的结束一样感到悲伤。这意味着很多悲伤、愤怒，甚至一些解脱。
Don't shut those feelings out. Try to sit with them. But if it gets too much, step away. Come back to those feelings when they don't feel so overwhelming.
不要把这些感受拒之门外。试着接受它们。但如果情感太强烈，就远离。当这些感受不再那么让人难以承受时，再回到它们身边。
Lean on your friends; grab coffee; watch a dumb movie. Just be around someone who cares.
依靠你的朋友；喝杯咖啡；看一部愚蠢的电影。只要和一个关心你的人在一起就行。
Maybe talk to them about what's on your mind or just focus on some distractions.
也许可以和他们谈谈你的想法，或者把注意力集中在一些分散注意力的事情上。
Now here's the hard part. Friend breakups mess with your whole friend group. Who's still on your team? Who's off limits? It's okay to be confused about all that.
现在到了最难的部分。友谊破裂会扰乱你的整个朋友圈。谁还在你的朋友圈里？谁要排除在外？对所有这些感到困惑是正常的。
Take this one step at a time. Maybe text one friend and say hey this is awkward but I need some space for a while.
一步一步来。也许可以给一个朋友发短信说嘿，这很尴尬，但我需要一段时间独处。
And if someone asks about the breakup, you can always say I'm not up to talking about it just yet. This whole thing is messy, complicated and it takes time.
如果有人问起友谊破裂的事，你可以说我现在还不想谈论它。这整件事很混乱、很复杂，需要时间。
Don't beat yourself up about it. There is no right way to navigate this. Just keep trying things out one day at a time. Those close friends will help you find your way back to solid ground.
不要为此自责。没有正确的方法来解决这个问题。只要一天天地尝试就行了。那些亲密的朋友会帮助你重回正轨。
