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Hey, Psych2goers. Can a narcissist fall in love?
嘿，Psych2go的观众们。自恋者会坠入爱河吗？
The short answer is yes.
简短的回答是肯定的。
However, it's probably not the type of love you are thinking of right now.
然而，这可能不是你现在所想的那种爱。
Love is different for everybody.
爱对每个人来说都不同。
This applies especially well in the case of narcissists.
这一点在自恋者身上尤其适用。
Since they have psychological deficits that impact emotional assessment, they tend to show their love in a weird, selfish way.
由于他们有影响情绪评估的心理缺陷，他们倾向于以一种奇怪、自私的方式表达他们的爱。
So if you are an average person who sees love as something along the lines of understanding, acceptance, and compromise,
如果你是一个普通人，把爱视为理解、接受和妥协，
then you are in for a surprising ride, because this is what truly happens when a narcissist falls in love.
那么你就会大跌眼镜，因为这也是自恋者坠入爱河时真实发生的事情。
Before we begin, this video is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice or diagnosis.
在我们开始之前，必须声明这段视频仅用于教育目的，无意替代专业建议或诊断。
With that said, here is what happens when a narcissist falls in love with you.
话虽如此，以下是自恋者爱上你的表现。
Number one, they won't change.
第一，他们不会改变。
You may think that when a narcissist truly falls in love, they change for the better.
你可能认为，当一个自恋者真的坠入爱河时，他们会变得更好。
Unfortunately, in most situations, that is not the case.
不幸的是，在大多数情况下，情况并非如此。
Research shows that they have structural abnormalities in brain regions associated with emotional empathy.
研究表明，他们大脑中与情感共鸣相关的区域存在结构性异常。
And because of that, they tend to turn abusive or remain self-absorbed.
正因为如此，他们往往会变得具有攻击性，或者保持自我陶醉。
Number two, they're turbulent in their ways of affection.
第二，他们表达感情的方式很不稳定。
Narcissists can be extremely warm one second and cold the next.
自恋者可能前一秒还非常温暖，下一秒就会变得冷酷。
It's also common for them to love bomb their partners.
对他们来说，喜欢攻击他们的伴侣也很常见。
Since they're playing a game of wanting to receive praise and admiration, they know exactly which buttons to push to elicit a good reaction.
他们在玩一场想要得到赞扬和钦佩的游戏，他们确切地知道应该按下哪些按钮才能引起良好的反应。
However, since the act of receiving pleasure is somewhat like a game to them, they naturally lose interest once they win it or receive the prize.
然而，由于接受快乐的行为对他们来说有点像一场游戏，一旦他们赢得了快乐或领到了奖品，他们自然会失去兴趣。
So, it won't be a surprise when one moment they're buying gifts and booking honeymoon tickets for their partners and breaking up with them the next.
所以，当他们前一刻还在为伴侣买礼物、订蜜月机票，下一刻就与他们分手了，这并不令人惊讶。
Number three, they prefer casual dating or long distance.
第三，他们更喜欢随意约会或异地恋。
Commitment is a difficult thing to expect from narcissists.
对于自恋者来说，承诺是一件很难期待的事情。
Since their sponges of attention, a single person's appreciation will tire them out quickly.
由于他们的注意力铺天盖地，一个人的欣赏会很快让他们疲惫不堪。
For them, the more people to receive praise from the better.
对他们来说，接受表扬的人越多越好。
This is why they're especially comfortable with casual dating or being in long distance relationships.
这就是为什么他们特别喜欢随意约会或异地恋的原因。
In these types of setups, there are low expectations for intimacy, but enough opportunities to satisfy their desire.
在这种人的圈子里，对亲密关系的期望很低，但有足够的机会来满足他们的欲望。
Do any of these ring a bell so far? Comment blow.
到目前为止，你对这些都有印象吗？在下面评论哦。
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说到铃声，如果你喜欢我们的内容，别忘了订阅并点击通知铃图标，当我们发布新视频时就会收到通知。
While you're at it, hit the like button too.
当你在看这个视频，也要点赞啊。
Your support means so much to us.
你们的支持对我们意义重大。
Number four, they're passionate at first.
第四，他们一开始很有激情。
Narcissists are supposed to be vain, selfish people, right?
自恋者应该是虚荣、自私的人，对吗？
Well, while it's true that a sense of entitlement characterizes them, narcissists have also been proven to possess emotional intelligence.
嗯，虽然他们确实有一种理所当然的感觉，但事实证明，他们也拥有情商。
This means that they're highly capable of showing their interest, especially to gain what they want. Adoration.
这意味着他们很有能力表现出他们的兴趣，特别是获得他们想要的东西。崇拜。
For this reason, they may act all lovey-dovey during the early stages of a relationship.
出于这个原因，在一段关系的早期阶段，他们可能会表现得卿卿我我。
They may be touchy, generous, dreamy, and all the good things.
他们可能很敏感、慷慨、美好，以及所有好的东西。
But don't be fooled.
但不要上当受骗。
A narcissist love also means putting themselves first, always.
自恋者的爱也意味着永远把自己放在第一位。
Number five, they won't know how to resolve conflicts.
第五，他们不知道如何解决冲突。
Disagreements and arguments are common in relationships.
在恋爱关系中，分歧和争吵是很常见的。
If handled well, they may even promote growth and closeness between partners.
如果处理得当，它们甚至可能促进伴侣之间的成长，增加亲密感。
But since narcissists always want to seem perfect, they tend to avoid things that may make them seem like a bad person.
但由于自恋者总是想要看起来完美，他们倾向于回避那些可能让他们看起来像个不好的人的东西。
This means that when there's conflict, they're highly expected to shift the blame, point fingers, and use manipulation tactics to keep the upper hand.
这意味着，当发生冲突时，他们很可能推卸责任，指责对方，并使用操纵策略来保持上风。
And number six, they may commit narcissistic abuse.
第六，他们可能会实施自恋型虐待。
Narcissistic abuse is defined as a type of emotional abuse
自恋型虐待被定义为一种情感虐待，
where the abuser only cares about themselves and may use words and actions to manipulate their partner's behavior and emotional state.
施虐者只关心自己，可能会用语言和行动来操纵伴侣的行为和情绪状态。
Since narcissists tend to see themselves as superior beings, they often forget about the needs of their partners.
由于自恋者倾向于将自己视为优越的存在，他们往往会忘记伴侣的需求。
They do everything for themselves first.
他们会优先为自己做事。
And this behavior can be especially damaging to the person they're in a relationship with.
而这种行为可能会对与他们有关系的人造成特别的伤害。
Victims of narcissistic abuse may experience anxiety, depression, post traumatic stress, loss of self worth, and more.
自恋型虐待的受害者可能会经历焦虑、抑郁、创伤后应激、自我价值丧失等。
So, did anyone come to mind when you heard these signs?
那么，当你听到这些迹象时，有没有想到什么人？
Narcissists can often make life difficult for who they love and vice versa.
自恋者往往会让他们爱人的生活变得困难，反之亦然。
There isn't a cure for narcissistic personality disorder, but therapy can help.
自恋型人格障碍没有治愈的方法，但治疗可以有所帮助。
If this video is relevant to you or someone you know, please don't hesitate to reach out for guidance or help.
如果本期视频与你或你认识的人有关，请不要犹豫寻求指导或帮助。
Do you think we missed anything?
你们有什么补充的吗？
Leave it in the comments below.
请在下面的评论中补充。
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Thanks for watching. Until next time.
感谢您的观看。下次见。
