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嗨，Psych2Go的观众们，欢迎观看我们的视频。
Do you ever worry about how your words can impact your child?
你有没有担心过你的话会对孩子产生怎样的影响？
The way you nurture your children can heavily impact their mental and emotional development, and follow them into adulthood.
你养育孩子的方式会严重影响他们的心理和情感发展，并伴随他们进入成年期。
So if you're wondering what you can say that would be helpful for your children, here are seven phrases that children need to hear from their parents.
因此，如果你想知道你能说些什么对你的孩子有帮助，这里有七句孩子需要从父母那里听到的话语。
If you're a child watching this video and found it relatable, be sure to share this video with your parents too.
如果你是一个在看这段视频的孩子，并且觉得这个视频很有趣，那么一定要把这段视频也分享给你的父母。
Number one, "I liked how you..."
第一，“我喜欢你这么做...”
Did your child do something that you wanna praise?
你的孩子做了什么你想表扬的事吗？
Saying blanket statements like, "I'm proud of you," or "You're a smart kid," can turn into white noise if said too often, leaving little effect.
像“我为你骄傲”或“你是个聪明的孩子”这样的笼统的话，如果说得太频繁，可能会变成善意谎言噪音，几乎没有什么效果。
Instead, phrases that focus on how they achieved their accomplishment can be more beneficial and long-lasting.
相反，专注于他们是如何取得成就的话语可能更有益，也更持久。
Being more specific with your validations, such as by saying, "I'm proud you got an A." "You must've studied very hard," or "I like how you picked up the trash "and made everything tidy" can help them better understand and reflect on the positive result of their actions.
对你的肯定要更加具体，比如说：“我为你得了A感到骄傲。”“你一定学得很刻苦”，或者“我喜欢你捡垃圾的样子”，“把一切都收拾得整整齐齐”，可以帮助他们更好地理解和反思自己行为的积极结果。
Number two, "Your sibling looks up to you."
第二，“你的兄弟姐妹尊敬你。”
Do you have several children?
你有几个孩子吗？
Older siblings at a younger age can feel jealous and act out once their younger sibling starts getting more attention than them.
一旦弟弟妹妹开始得到比他们更多的关注，哥哥姐姐在年纪较小的时候可能会感到嫉妒，他们也会表现出来。
Instead of telling them to stop misbehaving, Dr. Katherine Carsey, a child psychologist, suggests that a more effective method would be to praise the older siblings and highlight their role in the family.
儿童心理学家凯瑟琳·卡西博士建议，更有效的方法是表扬年长的兄弟姐妹，并强调他们在家庭中的角色，而不是告诉他们停止行为不端。
Saying something like, "Your younger brother or sister, really looks up to you." in a genuine way can give them a feeling of responsibility and validation without the tension.
像这样说，“你的弟弟或妹妹真的很尊敬你。”用真诚的方式可以给他们一种责任感和认同感，而不是紧张感。
Number three, "Although what you did made me angry, "I still love you."
第三，“尽管你的所作所为让我很生气，但我仍然爱你。”
How do you deal with bad behavior?
你是如何处理不良行为的？
Whether it's throwing tantrums, disrespecting teachers, or not doing chores.
无论是发脾气，不尊重老师，还是不做家务。
Parents can be reasonably mad or hurt over their child's actions.
父母可能会对孩子的行为感到愤怒或伤害，这是合理的。
While some children at a young age don't understand the severity of their actions, they may suffer long-term consequences and feel like a disgrace if their parents use hurtful words like, "I'm ashamed of you,", or "I'm disappointed in you."
虽然有些孩子在很小的时候就不知道他们行为的严重性，但如果他们的父母说出伤害他们的话，比如，我为你感到羞愧，或我对你失望，他们可能会遭受长期的后果，并感到耻辱。
Instead, you can apply a more loving approach by expressing your concerns while still making them feel valued by saying the phrase above.
相反，你可以用一种更有爱心的方式来表达你的担忧，同时通过说出上面这句话让他们感觉到自己的价值。
Number four, "Let's work on this together."
第四，“让我们一起努力吧。”
Has your child ever encountered a difficult challenge?
您的孩子有没有遇到过困难的挑战？
How did you respond to it?
你对此有何反应？
When a child fails to get something right, like tying their shoes, it can be tempting as parents to do it for them.
当孩子做不好某件事时，比如系鞋带，父母可能会忍不住为他们做这件事。
But by doing this, you're promoting a habit where they become highly dependent on you and lack the confidence to do things by themselves.
但通过这样做，你正在养成一种习惯，让他们变得高度依赖你，缺乏独立做事的信心。
Not extending help isn't the right course of action either.
不提供帮助也不是正确的做法。
Instead, you can guide them by telling them what they should do to get them to achieve their goal.
相反，你可以通过告诉他们应该做什么来让他们实现目标来指导他们。
Be by their side and work on the task together while allowing them to exert decent amounts of effort so they can feel proud of what they did.
站在他们身边，一起完成任务，同时允许他们付出适当的努力，这样他们就可以为自己的所作所为感到自豪。
Number five, "Playtime's almost over.
第五，“游戏时间快要结束了。
"Should I wait one minute or two?"
“我应该等一分钟还是两分钟？”
What do you say when you want your child to do something?
当你想让你的孩子做某事时，你会说什么？
Instead of just telling them what you want them to do, it may be more efficient and effective to let them choose between two options.
与其只告诉他们你想让他们做什么，让他们在两个选项中做出选择可能会更有效率和效果。
This doesn't apply to just playtime as well, but for other things too, like choosing to eat between two vegetables or what time to go to the dentist.
这不仅适用于玩耍时间，也适用于其他事情，比如在两种蔬菜之间选择吃东西，或者什么时候去看牙医。
If a parent does the opposite and gives them commands, such as by saying things like, "We're leaving now.", or, "You have to finish everything before you get to play.", they may end up putting up a fight and refuse to give into your wishes.
如果父母反其道而行之，给他们下命令，比如说“我们要走了”，或者“你必须在玩之前把所有的事情都做完”，他们可能最终会与你抗争，拒绝满足你的愿望。
Number six, "I'm listening."
第六，“我在听。”
How does it feel when you're always talked over and lectured?
当你总是被人议论和说教时，感觉如何？
For children or young adults, lecturing them may not always come across as helpful or motivating.
对于儿童或年轻人来说，给他们上课可能并不总是有帮助或有激励作用。
It could even lead to the opposite effect and worsen their mental health.
这甚至可能导致相反的效果，恶化他们的心理健康状态。
Instead, giving your child your attention and listening to what they have to say can nurture a healthier two way street between you and your child.
相反，给你的孩子关注，听他们说什么，可以在你和你的孩子之间培养一个更健康的双向通道。
By lending an open ear, you deepen your bond with them and boost your kids' self-esteem, giving them the idea that their thoughts and ideas are important and valid.
通过倾听，你加深了与他们的联系，提高了孩子的自尊，让他们相信他们的想法是重要的和有效的。
And number seven, "Mind showing me how you did that?"
第七，“介意让我看看你是怎么做到的吗？”
Has your child done something that they're really proud of?
你的孩子有没有做过他们真正引以为豪的事情？
Whether they've solved a Rubik's cube, performed a cool magic trick, or planted some flowers seeds in the garden, showing encouragement and praise to your child helps improve their confidence and sense of self.
无论他们解了魔方，表演了很酷的魔术，还是在花园里种了一些花的种子，对孩子的鼓励和赞扬都有助于提高他们的自信和自我意识。
Even if the results weren't particularly impressive, praising them for their effort can motivate your child and give them the optimistic mindset that helps them take on future challenges with esteem and confidence.
即使结果不是特别令人印象深刻，赞扬他们的努力也可以激励你的孩子，给他们乐观的心态，帮助他们以尊重和信心迎接未来的挑战。
Did you find any of these phrases helpful?
你觉得这些话语有用的吗？
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请在下面的评论中告诉我们。
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不要忘了点击通知铃声图标，当Psych2Go发布新视频时，可以获得通知。
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本视频中使用的参考文献和研究添加在下面的描述中。
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感谢您的收看，下个视频见。
