声音简介：《我的姐姐》：除了是否该抚养弟弟，更应该思考的是…

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最近看了电影《我是姐姐》，相信你们很多也去看了~

想了很久该怎么聊这部电影，在家也是大姐的我看完也是五味杂陈。

The movie is based on a true story, though its ending has been revised.

It follows An Ran, an 18-year-old girl who lost her parents due to a car accident, and is now facing the dilemma of pursuing her dream and independent life or raising her six-year-old younger brother.

看完电影的开放式结局很多人在讨论安然该不该抚养弟弟。

从剧情发展看因为姐姐后来已经和弟弟有了深厚的感情，

所以如果主动选择抚养，比如带在身边一起去北京，卖了房子有钱了让月嫂帮忙带之类的都很能让人理解。

这点或许不管不同性别，姐弟或者兄弟，都有很多类似的剧情。

就像另一部有点类似的美国电影Whats Eating Gilbert Grape中文译名叫《不一样的天空》。

In the 1993 American movie, Gilbert Grape is a young man who needs to take care of his whole family, including her mother, who has been morbidly obese since the suicide of his husband, and his younger brother, who is developmentally disabled, whose doctor even says he will die before 18.

这部众星荟萃的93年老电影讲的是Gilbert Grape如何撑起一整个家的故事。

（Gilbert是杰克船长Johnny Depp饰演的~）

尽管Gilbert还很年轻，可是他要照顾自己有发育性障碍、被医生说18岁就可能去世的弟弟（由当时还很可爱的小李子演的），

和在爸爸死后暴饮暴食而病态超重的妈妈。

Though Gilbert cannot choose his life, he loves his family members deeply, so he later chooses to take the responsibility of taking care of his brother on his own, after his mother died.

因为对弟弟有着深厚的感情，所以后来当妈妈去世了，

他也依旧像带儿子一样把弟弟带在了身边。

回到《我的姐姐》这部电影，姐姐之后的选择是她的自由。

而在安然和弟弟建立情感之前，全家人都第一时间觉得她作为女生，

应该牺牲自己的一切成全弟弟，这种理所应当的想法才是最让人气愤的。

Well, since An Ran was very young, she was unfairly treated by her parents due to their preference for boys over girls.

She had to pretend to be disabled in order to allow her parents to get the certificate to have a second child, preferably a son.

Under China’s One Child Policy at that time, parents with a disabled kid were allowed to have a second child.

自小安然在家就因为父母重男轻女的观念受到了不公对待。

她从小就要假装残疾，这样爸妈才能领残疾证再要一个孩子。

Later after An Ran grew up and was able to apply for a medical school in Beijing, her parents revised her application behind her back and forced her to stay in her hometown to take good care of her family.

后来她好不容易有机会逃离这个让自己窒息的地方，

打算报考北京的临床医学专业，梦想做一名医生，

却被父母偷偷改成了当地的护理专业，好方便她以后照顾家里。

经历了这么多，当父母意外离世，所有人却都觉得她就应该照顾这个陌生的弟弟，甚至还希望她把房子留给弟弟。

可笑的是连这个房也是父母当时闹离婚才不得已转到安然名下的。

看这部影片的时候或许很多女生都对这种重男轻女遭遇有类似的同感。

China's preference for sons stretches back for centuries.

According to a report from the Guardian, in the early 1980s, there were 108 male births to every 100 female, only slightly above the natural rate.

By 2000 that had soared to 120 males, and in some provinces, such as Anhui, Jiangxi and Shaanxi, to more than 130.

The result means more than 35 million women are "missing."

根据英国卫报的报道显示，在80年代，中国的男女性别比例是108:100，

后来到了2000年增长到了120:100，有的省份甚至到了130：100.

而在其他国家，比如日本男女性别比大概是95：100，美国是94：100，法国是91：100。

国内的数据意味着20年间有3500万的女性“消失”了，

有很多是因为B超检查的时候发现是女娃就打掉了。

所以国家才在2003年的时候出台了不得B超检查性别的法律。

Though the preference for boys is decreasing in China, especially in the more affluent areas, it’s undeniable that such phenomenon still can be seen in many regions.

Yang Yang is a fertility doctor with the Shanghai First Maternity and Infant Hospital. He says in an article on Sixth Tone that some parents are requesting illegal sex screening.

上海市第一妇幼医院的医生Yang Yang曾在Sixth Tone

发表一篇文章谈到了有些父母曾想找他做非法鉴定宝宝性别。

He recalls that one half of the couple — usually the man — will lower his voice and ask if sex screening is possible from a technological perspective.

When he replied that “yes, it is possible, but only when at least one of the parents is carrying a hereditary [həˈredɪteri] disease.” (遗传性疾病）

The father will clear his throat and murmur, “Money’s not an object. Can you just help us have a boy?”

他说通常爸爸会小声开口问能否鉴定，

在得知只有一方有遗传性疾病的前提下才有可能可以鉴定，

他会说“钱都不是事，您能帮我们要个男娃吗？”

They may later arrange illegal screenings and terminate their pregnancies at unlawful clinics.

Some women have even been pregnant five or six times, yet have given birth only once and do not have a history of natural miscarriage.

被拒后很多人会开始找非法途径鉴定孩子，查出是女娃就打胎。

有的女性甚至自然怀孕了五六次，却只生育了一次，

没有自然流产(miscarriage)现象。

就像《我的姐姐》里那位难产的妈妈，

居然不顾自己的生命危险也非要保住那个男娃，

更可怕的是她的家里人也是这样认同的。

By 2018, there were still over 31 million more men than women in the country.

If we don’t overhaul our society’s overall preference for sons, then it will be impossible for us to escape China’s current population trap.

Dr. Yang Yang says, "we must shake off our harmful social preference for boys — because no more little girls should ever disappear, and no more little boys should have to grow old alone."

据国家统计局统计，截至2018年，中国的男性人数比女性人数多了3100万左右，

预计2020年数据还会达到3500万。

这也意味着有更多男生得打光棍了。

只有重男轻女的传统观念能被完全摒弃，性别比才能缩小，

女生也才能受到完全公平的对待。

就像在《我的姐姐》里：

如果安然自小就能被平等对待和弟弟和睦相处，

她或许早就读上了医学院，也不会抵触弟弟；

如果姑妈没有从小被灌输要照顾弟弟，凡事以弟弟为先，她的人生也不至于那么糟糕；

如果医院里难产的妈妈没有要求非保住儿子，也不至于面临生命危险。

期待这些悲剧不再有的那一天。

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