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Keeping that fa~ade, that image of impregnability of perfection.
就是为了维持那种完美的幻觉
Versus failure as feedback. Again, not enjoying failure.
而不是将失败视为反馈 不是说要享受失败
I haven't met a person who does enjoy failing, but seeing it more as feedback, as a growth opportunity.
我还没遇到过享受失败的人 而是要将失败视为一种反馈和成长的机会
A perfectionist is all about getting here. That's what it's about.
完美主义者只想着怎么到达这里 他们只关注这个
This is a means toward an end. Tangential.
只针对目的 直来直去的
Something that is not important other than taking me from here to here.
别的事情根本不重要 如果它不能让我达到目的的话
Or as for person committed to excellence, the journey is much part of the success as the destination.
但对于追求卓越的人来说 旅途和终点都是成功的一部分
Now there are numerous, numerous consequences to this distinction to holding one schema versus the other.
这样的基模上的差异会导致很多的后果
Here are some of them.
我在这里列举一些
The first one is that a perfectionist experiences only, at best, temporary relief.
第一个 就是完美主义者只能感受到 最多也只是 暂时性的轻松
So yes, there are constant pressure but when he or she gets to point B, then they feel relieved.
是的 他们会感受到持续的压力 但当他们 达到目的之后 他们感到了轻松
This is essentially the consummate rat racer.
这就是典型的逐利者
Let me give you an example of such a rat racer.
我来给你们一个这样的逐利者的例子
The person-let's call him X-goes to school, goes to an elementary school.
一个人 我们姑且称他为X先生 去上学了 上小学
Until that point, he really enjoyed his day care, pre-K, kindergarten.
在那之前 他一直很享受学前的生活
And then he goes to school and the pressure begins.
而他上学以后就开始有压力了
