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Signs you're growing apart from your partner
这些迹象表明你和另一半渐行渐远
You choose to share your news with other people instead of your partner
你选择和其他人而非另一半聊近况
It's very common to run to your partner as soon as you have some important news to share. Whether it's a raise at work or devastating news about your family, there's no one other than your partner that you would typically run to first. If this has started to change, however, Rori Sassoon - relationship expert, co-owner of the upscale matchmaking agency Platinum Poire and frequent dating expert on "The Real Housewives of New York" - told INSIDER that you are most likely growing apart from one another.
出大事的时候，你最想和另一半分享，这很常见。无论是加薪还是事关家人的不好消息，你最先想到的就是另一半。然而，如果这一情况开始发生改变，罗里·萨松（Rori Sassoon）——情感专家、高档婚介机构Platinum Poire的共同拥有人，以及《纽约真正的主妇》节目的常聘约会专家——在接受Insider杂志采访时说道，你可能和另一半渐行渐远了。
"One red flag that you are growing apart is when something good (or bad) happens to you, and you don't want to tell your partner first," she said. "You have other people you would rather share with first and they are no longer your closest person."
“发生好事或坏事时，你第一个想与之分享的人并不是你的另一半，这就是渐行渐远的危险信号之一，”她说道。“你想先和其他人分享，而另一半也不再是你最亲密的人了。”
You no longer want to spend free time with your partner
你不想再和另一半共度闲暇时光
Dreams of a vacation or getting to leave work early usually mean that you are on your way to spending some extra time with your spouse. Though some of those times you may choose to go on a trip with friends or even take some well-needed time for yourself, if you have no desire to spend any of your free time with your partner, it may be time to call it quits.
总想着度假或早点下班？这意味着你马上就要和另一半在一起共度美好时光了。尽管有时候，你会选择和朋友去旅行或独处，但如果你再也不想和另一半共度闲暇时光，最好干净利落地分手。
"You'll know that you're growing apart when you have an opportunity to take a vacation or you get some extra free time off from work and your S.O. is not the person that you want to spend your time with," Sassoon said. "Your partner should be the person you want to relax and vacay with - not the person that you need a vacation from."
“当你有机会度假或下班后有空余时间，但你却不想和另一半共度，你就会知道，你们正渐行渐远，”萨松说道。“另一半应该是你想与之一起放松、一起度假之人——而不应该是你想远离的人。”
Thoughts of spending life with them are not as strong as they were before
和另一半共度余生的想法不再如以往那般强烈
Making the choice to be with someone is usually because you see a future with them. And in most cases, it's something that is lifelong. When you start to think of your future and your partner no longer has a place in it though, you may be growing apart.
下决心与某人在一起通常是因为你觉得和他/她在一起会有未来。大多数情况下，这事关终身。但当你想象未来而另一半却不在其中时，你们可能已渐行渐远。
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