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5. Focus on what your partner does right, not wrong.
5. 多发现恋人做得对的地方，而不是揪着错误不放。
No one likes a nit-pick! Don’t chastiseyour partner every time you think they do something wrong. There are nice ways to inform someone if they hurt your feelings, or to correct them if they do something in a bad way. But instead of yelling at your partner for breaking a plate, thank them for washing the dishes for you—hey, soap makes things slippery! Your partner will appreciate that you’re seeing the positive things they’re bringing to the relationship, and being more positive and complimentarywill make you feel better than being negative all the time.
没人喜欢找茬挑刺儿！不要每次觉得恋人做错了就责怪不已。如果恋人伤害了你的感情，可以委婉地说出来；如果恋人做错事，可以指正出来。但是，千万不要因为恋人打碎了一个盘子而朝他大吼大叫，相反，你应该感谢他帮你洗碗——哎呀，肥皂水容易让手打滑嘛！这样说，他会心存感激的。你能看到彼此关系的积极面，这种积极和赞扬也能赶走消极情绪，让你一直开心快乐。
