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What is the three-month rule?
三个月定律是什么？
The dating talk out in the advice world of Tik Tok is the so-called three-month rule that in 3 months you would have a decent idea of whether a relationship will make it.
Tik Tok咨询界流传的约会话题是所谓的三个月定律，即在3个月内你就会清楚地知道一段恋爱关系是否会成功。
Be careful, because 3 months can be a little arbitrary.
请小心，因为3个月可能有点随意。
What may be more meaningful is the amount of contact you have had with someone.
更有意义的可能是你与某人的接触次数。
If you meet someone and spend a week with them and then it's long distance, it's very different than someone who is seeing something someone regularly for 3 months.
如果你遇见某人并与他们相处一周，然后隔很长时间再见面，这与三个月里定期见某人的情况非常不同。
It may also come down to the kind of time you spend with the person. Is it just formal dates?
它还可能取决于你与此人相处的时间。只是正式的约会吗？
Or are you seeing them in their natural habitat and getting a chance to see how they treat everyone from restaurant servers to friends and how they live?
或是在生活化的场景下见面，并有机会了解他们如何对待从餐馆服务员到朋友的每个人，以及了解他们的生活方式？
If you aren't seeing the breath of their life, 3 months may actually not be enough.
如果你没有看到他们的生活气息，3个月实际上可能还不够。
And frankly, knowing what I know about toxic relationships, 3 months is definitely not long enough.
坦率地说，就我对有毒关系的了解而言，三个月绝对不够长。
3 months may mean you are just getting out of the love bombing period and haven't yet started to experience devaluing.
3个月可能意味着你刚刚走出爱情轰炸期，还没有开始经历贬值。
So be aware that if you are in month three of a fairy tale, you may not have given it enough time.
所以要注意，如果你正处于爱情童话故事的第三个月，你可能没有给它足够的时间。
3 months is a decent amount of time to know someone, but only a fool would fully commit and believe that they have it all figured out after 3 months.
3个月对于了解一个人来说是相当长的时间，但只有傻瓜才会完全投入并相信他们在3个月后已经弄清楚了一切。
