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Hey, Psych2Goers. It's been said that loneliness is a universal human experience.
嘿，Psych2Go的观众们。有人说，孤独是一种普遍的人类体验。
And chances are, if you're watching this then you've probably felt lonely too.
很有可能，如果你正在观看这个视频，你可能也会感到孤独。
No one is exempt from feeling a sense of loneliness in their lives from time to time, no matter what their age, race, background or social circumstances may be.
无论年龄、种族、背景或社会环境如何，每个人的生活中都会时不时地感受到孤独。
But when left to its own devices it can be a potentially damaging state of mind to be in.
但当对它放任不管时，这可能是一种潜在的破坏性心理状态。
So why do we feel lonely?
那么，为什么我们会感到孤独呢？
And better yet, what can we do about it?
为了变得更好，我们能做些什么呢？
Well, here are six psychology backed signs to help with just that.
这里有六个心理学支持的迹象来帮助你缓解孤独。
Number one, you have a good friend or two.
第一，有一两个好朋友。
And most people tend to feel lonely when they don't have as many friends as they like, or they have too many acquaintances they don't feel particularly close to.
大多数人在自己喜欢的朋友没有那么多，或者有太多不太亲近的熟人时，往往会感到孤独。
So if you have at least one close friend in your life you genuinely feel like you can trust, and who cares for you, then you're already doing so much better than you probably think you are.
所以，如果你在生活中至少有一个你真正觉得可以信任的亲密朋友，他关心你，那么你已经做得比你可能认为的要好得多了。
In fact, one of the most famous psychological studies, the 40 year Harvard study on happiness has found that it's not the quality of our social relationships that determines our happiness, but rather, their quality.
事实上，最著名的心理学研究之一，哈佛大学关于幸福的40年研究发现，决定我们幸福的不是我们的社会关系质量，而是他们的社会关系质量。
Number two, you have people you can get help from.
第二，可以从一些人那里得到帮助。
Many people wanna be popular and well liked, never without a friend by their side or flaunting a million followers on social media.
许多人想要受欢迎和被喜欢，他们身边从来没有朋友，社交媒体上也没有可以炫耀的一百万粉丝。
But we all know that deep down inside, none of that matters.
但我们都知道，在内心深处，这些都不重要。
If the people you surround yourself with, don't truly care about you as a person.
如果你周围的人，并不真正关心你这个人。
So if you've ever found yourself in a tough spot before or struggling with a problem that someone in your life helped you to solve, be it a friend or a family member, then count yourself lucky.
所以，如果你曾经发现自己处于一个艰难的境地，或者在生活中有人帮助你解决了一个问题，不管是朋友还是家人，那么你应该感到幸运。
You're not as alone as you think you are.
你并不像你想的那样孤独。
Number three, you have people who can give you advice, even though you might feel too scared to open up and burden other people with your problems.
第三，身边的人可以给你建议，即使你可能因为太害怕而不敢向别人吐露你的问题。
Or worry that they might treat and look at you differently once you do.
或者担心一旦你这样做了，他们可能会以不同的方式对待和看待你。
The truth is you'll never really know until you try.
事实是，除非你尝试过，否则你永远不会真正知道。
Who knows, you might already have plenty of people in your life who'd be more than happy to listen to what's troubling you, and even offer some advice; like your parents, your best friend, your teacher, your guidance counselor and so on.
谁知道呢，你的生活中可能已经有很多人乐于倾听你的烦恼，甚至会给你一些建议；比如你的父母，你最好的朋友，你的老师，你的咨询顾问等等。
Number four, you can talk about your hobbies and interests.
第四，可以谈论你的爱好和兴趣。
Okay, so maybe talking about all the touchy-feely stuff is a bit uncomfortable for you; that's okay.
好吧，所以也许谈论所有敏感的东西对你来说有点不舒服；这没什么。
A lot of people feel the same way, but talking to someone about your hobbies and interests can be just as fulfilling and therapeutic too, especially with those who share the same passion as you.
很多人都有同样的感受，但和别人谈论你的爱好和兴趣也同样能带来满足感和起到治愈作用，尤其是和那些和你有同样热情的人。
Finding someone you can talk to about all the things that make you happy, whether it's a favorite film, book or pastime is already enough to make us feel a stronger sense of belonging and emotional connection with others.
找到一个可以和你谈论所有让你快乐的事情的人，无论是最喜欢的电影、书籍还是消遣，这已经足够让我们感到更强的归属感和与他人的情感联系。
Number five, you have people you regularly check in with.
第五，有经常联系的人。
Even if you might not see them, as often as you'd like, or you feel like you've drifted apart and aren't as close as you used to be, that doesn't mean that your loved ones have stopped caring about you or that you don't matter to them anymore.
即使你可能没有像你想要的那样经常见到他们，或者你感觉你们已经疏远了，不像以前那样亲密，但这并不意味着你所爱的人不再关心你，或者你对他们不再重要。
Chances are even if they don't keep in touch anymore, they still check in on you from time to time and make sure you're okay; Sunday brunch at your parents' house, Grab grabbing coffee with an old friend, a quick phone call from your sibling.
很有可能，即使他们不再保持联系，他们仍然会时不时地关注你，确保你没事；周日在你父母家吃早午餐，和老朋友喝杯咖啡，给你的兄弟姐妹打个简短的电话。
All of these things tell you you're not as alone, as you might feel sometimes, Because at the end of the day, your loved ones will always be there.
所有这些都告诉你，你并不像你有时感觉到的那样孤独，因为在一天结束的时候，你所爱的人将永远在那里。
And number six, you're careful about who you let in.
第六，谨慎让谁进去你的内心。
Being careful about who you let into your life and your inner circle can reap a lot of rewards, but it can also make us feel more alone than we really are.
小心地让谁进入你的生活和核心圈子可以获得很多回报，但它也会让我们感到比实际更孤独。
We might feel like we don't have as much of a social media presence.
我们可能会觉得自己在社交媒体上没有那么多的存在感。
Don't go out as often as other people think we should or aren't constantly surrounded by other people in our day-to-day lives.
不要像其他人认为的那样经常外出，或者在日常生活中不要总是被其他人包围。
Regardless of all these things however, it's still a lot better to choose your friends wisely because then you can be sure that the people you do let your guard down around can be trusted.
然而，不管这一切，明智地选择你的朋友还是好得多的，因为这样你就可以确定那些你放松警惕的人是可以信任的。
So do you relate to any of the things we've mentioned here?
那么，你和我们提到的这些内容有关吗?
Has this helped you realize that you're not as alone as you once thought?
这有没有帮助你意识到你并不像你曾经想的那样孤独？
While it's tempting to push such a painful and scary feeling aside, it's important that we acknowledge it and try to understand why we're feeling this way.
虽然我们很容易把这种痛苦和恐惧的感觉推到一边，但重要的是我们要承认孤独，并试图理解我们为什么会有这种感觉。
Loneliness, after all, is just like any other human emotion.
毕竟，孤独就像任何其他人类情感一样。
It's meant to teach us something about ourselves we might not yet realize.
它的目的是教我们一些我们可能还没有意识到的关于我们自己的事情。
Maybe your loneliness is trying to tell you to make a conscious effort to get closer to your loved ones or maybe it's telling you that something needs to change in your life.
也许你的孤独正试图告诉你，要有意识地努力接近你所爱的人，或者它在告诉你，你的生活中有些事情需要改变。
Regardless whatever the reason may be, if you're seriously struggling with your mental health, the best thing you can do is reach out to a mental healthcare professional today and seek help.
无论原因是什么，如果你真的在与自己的心理健康作斗争，你能做的最好的事情就是今天就向心理健康专家寻求帮助。
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如果你觉得这个视频很有帮助，请点赞，并与可能从中找到见解的朋友分享。
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感谢您的观看，下次再见。
