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You're probably familiar with FOMO.
你一定了解FOMO这个词语。
That's short for "Fear Of Missing Out."
FOMO即“错失恐惧症”。
It's that feeling you get when it seems everyone else is doing something better than what you're doing now.
即，你会有种感觉，其他人在做的事看上去都比你的厉害。
But there's another FO you need to know about, and it's far more dangerous.
可其实还有一个以FO开头的恐惧症，比FOMO更危险。
It's called FOBO, and it's short for "Fear Of a Better Option."
它就是FOBO，即“更佳选择恐惧症”。
We live in a world of overwhelming choice. Even decisions that used to be simple,
这世上到处都有“重大抉择”。甚至有些在过去很简单的选择，
like choosing a restaurant or making everyday purchases, are now fraught with overanalysis.
比如去哪吃饭、买啥东西，可是现在连这些选择都得仔细斟酌。
Technology has only made the issue more pronounced.
而科技只是让这一切变得更为明显。
If you want to buy a pair of white shoelaces online,
如果你要网购两根白色鞋带，
you have to sort through thousands of items and read through hundreds of reviews.
你就得在几千个白色鞋带中精挑细选，还得翻看上百条买家评论。
That's an astounding amount of information to process to just buy two pieces of string that cost less than your morning latte.
信息量之大真是令人震惊，而这一切只是为了比一杯拿铁还便宜的两根绳子。
Chances are you've experienced FOBO when you've struggled to choose just one from a group of perfectly acceptable outcomes.
当你面对若干个完全可行的选项之时，若你为选择最佳方案而苦苦纠结，那你可能已被FOBO找上门。
It's a symptom of a culture which sees value in collecting and preserving as many options as possible.
如果一种文化鼓励人们拥有并保留尽可能多的选择，这种文化就会催生FOBO。
You might wonder why all of this is so bad. It seems counterintuitive.
你可能会问：这有什么不好的？这很有违常理啊？
Shouldn't it be a privilege to have so many good options to choose from?
能从那么多好的选择中作出抉择，不是一件好事吗？
The problem is, FOBO induces such severe analysis paralysis
问题就在于FOBO会让你过于认真地思考问题，
that it can negatively impact both your personal and professional life.
这种过度认真会对你的生活和工作产生负面影响。
When you can't make decisions with conviction, you waste precious time and energy.
你的犹豫不决会浪费你宝贵的时间与精力。
Luckily, there is a way to overcome FOBO. Here's a secret.
幸好FOBO是可以被克服的。秘诀如下。
With any decision you make, you first have to determine the stakes, as this will inform your decision-making strategy.
在做出每一个决定前，你都要确定该选项的风险大小，这样你也能因此制定抉择策略。
When it comes down to it, you only really face three types of decisions in life: high stakes, low stakes and no stakes.
确定风险之后，留下的就只有三类决定：高风险、低风险和无风险。
Let's start with no-stakes decisions.
首先来看无风险选项。
These are the minor details of life, where there is almost never an incorrect answer,
生活中有些细节永远没有正确答案，
and in a few hours, you won't even remember making the decision.
几小时后，你甚至不会记得你做出了这个决定。
A good example of this is choosing what to watch on TV.
对电视节目的选择就是一个很好的例子。
With thousands of shows, it's easy to get overwhelmed,
电视节目成千上万，足以让你迷失其中，
yet no matter what you pick, the consequences are basically nonexistent.
但不管你选择哪个节目都不会有什么后果。
So spending more than a few moments on FOBO is a massive waste of energy. You just need to move on.
所以，在这种问题上花太多时间就是对精力的巨大浪费。你只需要做完了事就好。
When it comes to no-stakes decisions, the key is to outsource them to the universe.
无风险决定的关键在于听天由命。
For example, you can whittle down your choices to just two and then flip a coin.
比如你可以将结果精简为两种，然后掷硬币。
Or try my personal favorite -- ask the watch.
或者像我一样--问手表。
Assign each one of your choices to one half of your watch, then let the second hand tell you what you're going to do.
将你的选择分配到手表的两个半面，秒针走在哪个半面，你就选哪个。
Looks like I'll be having the fish. That brings us to low-stakes decisions.
看样子我得吃鱼。现在来看看低风险选项。
These have consequences, but none are earth-shattering, and there are plenty of acceptable outcomes.
这些决定会有后果，但后果不严重，这些选项的结果大多可以接受。
Many routine things at work, like purchasing a printer,
很多生活中的日常，比如买哪台打印机，
booking a hotel or choosing between possible venues for an off-site are classically low-stakes in nature.
订哪个酒店，去哪里出差，这些在本质上都是低风险决定。
Some thinking is required, but these aren't make-or-break deliberations,
这些决定需要你做出思考，但就算做错也没啥大不了，
and you'll probably forget about them in a few weeks.
你过几周可能就会忘记此事。
Here, you can also outsource decision-making, but you want some critical thinking involved, as there are some stakes.
你也可以再玩一次“听天由命”，但因为毕竟风险还是存在的，所以你会想要认真思考一番。
This time, you'll outsource to a person.
这一次你可以听“人”由命。
Set some basic criteria, select someone to present a recommendation, and then take their advice.
先设下一些基本标准，然后请他人提出建议，并听从这些建议。
Make sure to avoid the temptation to canvass.
你千万不要游说他人。
Your goal is to clear your plate, not to kick the can down the road.
因为你的目的是解决问题，而不是制造问题。
Now that you tackled low-stakes and no-stakes decisions,
现在你把无风险和低风险选项都解决了，
you've created the space and time you'll need to handle high-stakes decisions.
你已经把时间和空间都腾给了高风险选项。
These are things like "which house should I buy" or "which job should I accept."
你免不了会遇到“在哪里买房？”“去哪里工作？”等问题。
Since the stakes are high and there are long-term implications, you absolutely want to get it right.
因为风险高意味着它对你有着长远的影响，于是你必定想做出正确决定。
Before we get to work, let's establish a few basic principles to guide you through the process.
开始之前，我们先确立一些基本原则，来指导你做出正确决定的流程。
First, think about what really matters to you, and set your criteria accordingly.
其一，想想什么对你来说真正重要，并依此设定选择标准。
Second, gather the relevant facts.
其二，收集相关事实。
Make sure you collect data about all of the options,
确保你对所有选择都了如指掌，
so you can be confident that you're truly making an informed decision.
这样你就能确信你的决定的确是基于事实的。
And third, remember that FOBO, by nature, comes when you struggle to choose just one from a group of perfectly acceptable options.
其三，记住FOBO会在你面对若干个完全可行的选择而你只能选择其中一个时才会出现。
So no matter what you choose, you can rest assured that the downside is limited.
所以不论你选哪个，你都可以放心，因为每个选项的不利因素是有限的。
Now that you've established some ground rules, the process can begin.
现在一些基本原则已被确立，你可以开始选择了。
Start by identifying a front-runner based on your intuition,
首先凭直觉选出一个最佳选项，
then compare each of your options head-to-head with the front-runner, one-by-one.
然后将其他选项与该最佳选项进行逐一的、一对一比较。
Each time, choose the better of the two based on the criteria, and discard the other one.
每次比较均须根据选择标准，从两个选项中选出一个并淘汰另外一个。
Here's the trick to avoiding FOBO. When you eliminate an option, it's gone forever.
这里有一个避开FOBO的秘诀。不要让已被淘汰的选项再次出现。
If you keep returning to discarded options, you risk getting stuck.
如果你不停地“复活”淘汰选项，你将陷入纠结之中。
Now repeat this process until you get down to one final choice.
重复刚才的步骤，直到你得出最终选择。
If you follow this system, you will usually end up with a decision on your own.
如果你遵循这一流程，你通常能得出自己的结论、作出自己的选择。
On the rare occasion that you get stuck,
除非你遇到的情况相当罕见，
you will outsource the final decision to a small group of qualified people who you trust
如果是这样，你就得把最终决定权交由一群可靠的、你信任的人，
and who are equipped to provide you with guidance on this particular topic.
这些人还需要有能力就此话题向你提供意见。
Engage a group of five or less, ideally an odd number of people so that you have a built-in tiebreaker if you need it.
人数不要超过5位，最好是奇数位，因为一旦出现平票状况，就会有人一锤定音。
Now that you've made your choice, one last challenge remains. You have to commit.
现在你已经做出了选择，但还剩下一个挑战。就是执行这一选择。
I can't promise you that you'll ever truly know if you've made the perfect decision, but I can tell you this:
我不能保证你的选择一定是完美的，但我可以告诉你，
a significant percentage of people in the world will never have to worry about FOBO.
这世界上将有一大部分人可以告别FOBO的烦扰。
Unlike the billions of people who have few options, if any, due to war, poverty or illness,
还有成万上亿的人可能没有什么选择，因为他们被战争、贫穷，或疾病所困扰，
you have plentiful opportunities to live decisively.
但与他们不同的是，你有很多机会来做出抉择。
You may not get everything you want, but the mere fact you get to decide is powerful.
虽然并非你的所有愿望都能得以满足，但决定权本身已能让你十分强大。
In fact, it's a gift. Make the most of it.
其实，决定权是一份馈赠。请充分使用！
