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Ever wonder why you get along better with some people over others?
有没有想过为什么和有的人相处更友好？
Compatibility plays a role, of course and similar interests and hobbies do as well.
当然，有兼容性的原因，相似的兴趣和爱好也起了作用。
But we're also often attracted to certain people who become our lifelong friends and romantic partners
但是我们也经常被某些人吸引，这些人成了我们一辈子的好友和伴侣
because they help us become better people. Just like rare gems, they can be hard to find.
因为他们帮助我们成为更好的人。就像是稀有宝石一样，这些人很难遇到。
Tired of the liars, cheaters and users you once thought you could rely on? Here are five types of people worth keeping in your life.
受够了那些你曾经依赖的撒谎精、骗子和利用者？以下是生命中值得拥有的5种人。
1. The ball of sunshine.
1. 充满阳光的人。
Ever heard of the saying that you are a mix of your five closest friends?
有没有听过这句话—你是五位密友的混合体？
When you surround yourself with sweet and caring people, you also catch their contagious energy.
当你周围都是亲切体贴得的人时，你也会受他们能量的传染。
People who are positive and upbeat aren't just the cheerleaders you see at pep rallies,
积极乐观的人不仅仅是你在赛前动员会上看到的拉拉队员，
they can actually benefit your health.
他们真的可以有益于你的健康。
Research shows that positive thinking can increase your lifespan,
研究表明积极思考能够延长寿命，
strengthen your immune system and reduce your risk of developing heart disease.
强壮你的免疫系统，减少患心脏疾病风险。
It's still unknown about the direct causation of these benefits but researchers theorize
虽然引发这些好处的直接原因仍未知，但研究人员推论
that having a positive outlook can help you cope with stressful situations better
拥有乐观的看法可以帮助你更好的应对压力情景
which in turn reduces the physiological side effects that stress creates.
转而减少这些压力的心理副作用。
2. The life coach.
2. 人生导师。
It's good to have role models in life especially when you're young.
人生中，尤其是在年轻时，拥有一个榜样是很棒的事情。
A five-year study sponsored by Big Brothers Big Sisters Canada showed that
加拿大Big Brothers Big Sisters赞助了一项5年研究，该研究表明
children with mentors were more confident and displayed fewer behavioral problems
拥有人生导师的孩子比那些没有的孩子要更加自信且
such as bullying and giving in to peer pressure than those who didn't.
有更少的行为问题，如霸凌和屈服于朋友的压力。
Young people who have mentors are also more likely to graduate high school and go on to college.
拥有导师的年轻人也更可能从高中毕业并进入大学。
Those of us who had absent or abusive parents will especially benefit from having someone by our side
陪伴在身边的人能够提出不同见解给予孩子们童年缺乏的支持，
who can offer different perspectives and be the support system we lacked throughout most of our childhoods.
那些父母不在身边的孩子尤能从中获益。
3. The adventure seeker.
3. 寻求冒险者。
What's life without a little adventure?
毫无波澜的生活有何意义？
When we get tied up in everyday responsibilities, chores and work it makes us forget about things to look forward to.
当我们厌倦了每日的责任、杂物和工作，我们忘记了自己所期盼的事情。
Befriend someone who isn't afraid to step out of their comfort zone and travel the world.
和那些不惧怕走出舒适区并环游世界的人做朋友。
Together you can embark on journeys that change your life forever.
和他们一起，你可以开始改变人生的旅途。
Not only does being adventurous reduce your levels of and depression but it can also make you more intelligent.
喜欢冒险不仅会减少抑郁的感觉，还能让你更聪明。
Psychologists from Indiana University discovered that our creativity and self-awareness increase.
印第安纳大学的心理学家发现我们的创造力和自我意识也能增加。
In addition, the new cultures, environments and experiences we immerse ourselves in can cause our brains to think different.
此外，沉浸在新的文化、环境和经历可以让我们的大脑不同凡想。
4. The natural psychologists.
4. 天生的心理学家。
When you're having a bad day it's good to have someone who understands you.
当你这一天不顺心的时候，有人理解你是件好事。
Good listeners make the best friends because they have high emotional intelligence
好的倾听者是最好的朋友，因为他们情商高
giving them the gift of reading you well, empathizing and providing authenticity.
这给了他们理解你、感同身受以及提供可靠感的天赋。
You can always count on these people to be open-minded and non-judgmental.
你可以依靠他们，他们思维开阔且没有偏见。
Often philosophical and idealistic, these natural psychologists aren't afraid to ask you follow-up questions
这些天生的心理学家通常很冷静，他们不害怕询问你一些
that help you tap into the power of self-reflection.
能够帮助你挖掘自己反省能力的后续问题。
Instead of explicitly telling you what to do, they would rather guide you to potential solutions.
他们不会明确地告诉你要做什么，他们会将你引向潜在的解决方法。
5. The mad logician.
5. 疯狂的逻辑学家。
In order to move forward we also must think forward.
想要前进就必须着眼未来。
When you surround yourself with people who value logic and problem-solving,
当你周围都是那些重视逻辑和解决问题的人时，
they can encourage you to use critical thinking instead of just basking in conflict.
他们可以鼓励你运用批判性思考而不是沉浸于冲突之中。
If you're especially the type of person to depend on others to make you feel better,
如果你是那种依靠别人取得自我良好感觉的人的话，
being around logicians can help you become more self-sufficient, responsible and practical.
和逻辑学家们待在一起能够帮助你更加自信、负责和实际。
They're the ones who help you turn dreams into reality reminding you
他们是那个能够帮助你将梦想变成现实，提醒你
that working through obstacles and challenges is much more rewarding than passively daydreaming.
克服障碍和挑战比白日做梦更加有回报的人。
Sometimes we're afraid to walk away from friends whose values no longer aligned with ours just because we've known them for a long time.
有时，我们害怕离开那些不再联系的朋友，因为我们认识彼此很长时间了。
But it doesn't always necessarily mean they become our lifelong friends.
但是这并不意味着他们变成了我们一辈子的朋友。
Don't be afraid to expand your horizons and meet new people.
不要害怕开阔自己的视野，认识新的朋友。
Do you know someone who changed your life for the better?
你生命中有那个将你变得更好的人么？
Want to also learn about what a healthy relationship looks like?
还想了解一段健康的关系是什么样的？
Check out our video here for all the details. Thanks for watching.
点击观看我们的视频获取所有细节。感谢收看。
