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Break up suck.
分手很糟糕。
And there's no way around them other than going through the hoops.
除了经受这些折磨毫无他法。
As painful as it is right now, we want you to know that it won't always be this way.
虽然很痛苦，但是我们想让大家知道事情并非会一直如此。
Here are the 7 stages of heart break.
以下是心碎的七个阶段。
1. Obsession for answers.
1. 痴迷于得到答案。
We often yearn for closure because the confusion hurts too much,
我们经常渴望将自己封闭起来，因为困惑伤人，
but closure doesn't always come, and more importantly, it doesn't change the outcome.
但是封闭自己并不是办法，更重要的是，这样不能改变结果。
You might be determined to gather answers from your ex partner's family, friends or co-workers
你或许坚持要从前任的家人、朋友或者同事身上收集答案
but eventually, playing 'detective' gets old. Which is why you move to stage 2. Denial
但最终，侦探游戏也会让你厌倦。所以你就到了第二阶段：否认。
You might have stopped searching for clues and answers,
你或许已经停止了搜寻线索和答案，
but this doesn't mean you're ready to accept things just yet.
但是这并不意味着你已经准备好接受这些事情了。
It's too much for you to process still, so, you're avoiding it for now hoping it's just a bad dream you'll wake up from.
你要接受的事情太多了，所以你选择暂时逃避，希望这一切不过是一个噩梦，你会醒来的。
3. Sorrow.
3. 悲伤。
But no matter how hard you tried denying the truths, it eventually catches up to you.
不论你多么努力的否认事实，但事实最终还是会找到你。
You start asking yourself 'Why me!', and this time, you really let the water works out.
你开始问自己“为什么是我！”，这一次，就真的嘤嘤嘤了。
4. Relapse.
4. 再度堕落。
So, you finally managed to see the break-up is really happening but you're not ready to let them go.
你最终明白分手是真的发生了，但是你还没有准备放手。
You tried to win them back, and come up with a million reasons 'why they should still be with you'.
你试着挽回他们，并给自己一百万个理由解释“为什么他们应该和你在一起”。
5. Anger.
5. 愤怒。
But, it doesn't work. You feel fed up and angry about the situation,
但是愤怒没有用。你觉得自己受够了并对现在的情况感到愤怒，
you start holding on to grudges because it's better than not holding on to anything at all.
你开始心怀怨恨，因为这样好过什么都握不住。
6. Acceptance.
6. 接受。
But even then, you eventually grow tired of resenting your ex,
但尽管这样，你最终还是慢慢疲于憎恨前任，
so you try something healthier, by accepting the break-up for what it is.
所以你会通过接受分手这个事实尝试一些更健康的方式。
You're not necessarily happy about it but you're no longer bitter either
你并不一定对此感到快乐，但你也不再痛苦。
7. Hopefulness.
7. 抱有希望。
Break-up can leaves us feeling scarred and doubtful but the heart know how to mend over time.
分手会让我们伤痕累累充满怀疑，但心知道如何随时间修补。
When you're ready, you start dating again, and see your past relationship as a lesson.
当你准备好时，你开始再次约会，并且将前段关系视为一次教训。
It's important to remember that all the heart break you go through should be taken as an experience.
重要的是要记住你经历的所有心碎都应该被当做一次经历。
Each one brings you one step closer to finding the perfect one.
每一段经历都会让你离找到完美的另一半更进一步。
Are you going through a break up? If so, which stage are you in?
你正在经历分手么？你现在处于哪一个阶段？
Please share your thoughts with us below. For break up tips, check out our video here.
请在下方分享你的想法。了解分手技巧，请观看这期视频。
Also, don't forget to subscribe to our channel for more helpful tips and share this video with others.
还有，不要忘记订阅我们的频道获取更多有用妙招并分享本期视频。
With your help, we can reach more people and provide our supports. Thanks for watching!
有了大家的帮助，我们才能让更多人看到并提供我们的支持。感谢收看！
