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You won't compromise
你不愿妥协
This usually occurs in a relationship wherein one or both parties always think they are right. “My way or the highway” won't fly in a relationship these days (not that it ever really did).
当双方都认为自己是对的，通常就会发生这种情况。现在“我行我素”在感情中已经不适用了（也从来没有发挥过作用）。
If you believe you are always right, then you never allow for someone else's opinion or perspective to enter your mind. You label it preposterous before taking the time to examine it. As such, learning to compromise is a direct result of true listening, speaking, and side-stepping the blame game.
如果你坚信自己永远是正确的，那你就不可能让别人的意见或观点进入你的思想。因为还没有经过思考，你就已经给它贴上了荒谬的标签。如此一来，学会妥协是真正倾听、表达内心和避免指责游戏的直接结果。
When we learn to listen and speak without fear, then we can develop a real understanding of our own needs as well as the needs of our partner. What follows is mutually beneficial compromise. We learn to live with or without some things for the sake of our relationship, and our partners learn to do the same. In turn, both people feel loved and valued.
当我们懂得了倾听和无所畏惧地表达，那我们就可以建立真正所需要的理解，正如我们的伴侣所需要的一样。妥协的结果只会得益于双方。为了感情着想，我们学会了有所放弃，有所保留，而我们的另一半同样也在学习。如此，双方都会感到被爱和自我价值。
Listening, speaking, not blaming, compromising; sounds easy, right? So why don't we just DO these things? The answer rests with number five.
倾听，表达，宽恕，妥协；听起来容易，对吧？那为什么不付诸行动呢？答案在第五条中揭晓。
