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布琳.布朗致力于研究人与人的关系--我们感同身受的能力、获得归属感的能力、爱的能力。在TEDx休斯敦一次富有感染力的幽默谈话中，她跟我们分享了她的研究发现，一个让她更想深入了解自己以及人类的发现。
vt. 理解，懂，听说，获悉，将 ... 理解为，认为<
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- And all you can think about is that opportunity for growth, right?
- 然后你满脑子都想着那一点成长的空间，不是么。
- Well, apparently this is the way my work went as well, because, when you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak.
- 这也是我研究的一个方面，因为当你跟人们谈论爱情，他们告诉你的是一件让他们心碎的事。
- When you ask people about belonging, they'll tell you their most excruciating experiences of being excluded.
- 当你跟人们谈论归属感，他们告诉你的是最让他们痛心的被排斥的经历。
- And when you ask people about connection, the stories they told me were about disconnection.
- 当你跟人们谈论关系，他们跟我讲的是如何被断绝关系的故事。
- So very quickly -- really about six weeks into this research --
- 所以很快的--在大约开始研究这个课题6周以后--
- I ran into this unnamed thing that absolutely unraveled connection in a way that I didn't understand or had never seen.
- 我遇到了这个前所未闻的东西，它揭示了关系，以一种我不理解也从没见过的方式。
- And so I pulled back out of the research and thought, I need to figure out what this is.
- 所以我暂停了原先的研究计划，对自己说，我得弄清楚这到底是什么。
- And it turned out to be shame. And shame is really easily understood as the fear of disconnection:
- 它最终被鉴定为耻辱感。耻辱感很容易理解，即害怕被断绝关系。
- Is there something about me that, if other people know it or see it, that I won't be worthy of connection?
- 有没有一些关于我的事，如果别人知道了或看到了，会认为我不值得交往。
- The things I can tell you about it: It's universal; we all have it.
- 我要告诉你们的是：这种现象很普遍；我们都会有（这种想法）。
- The only people who don't experience shame have no capacity for human empathy or connection.
- 没有体验过耻辱的人，不具有人类的同情或关系。
- No one wants to talk about it, and the less you talk about it, the more you have it.
- 没人想谈论自己的糗事，你谈论的越少，你越感到可耻。
- What underpinned this shame, this "I'm not good enough," -- which, we all know that feeling: "I'm not blank enough.
- 滋生耻辱感的是一种“我不够好."的心态--我们都知道这是个什么滋味：“我不够什么。
- I'm not thin enough, rich enough, beautiful enough, smart enough, promoted enough."
- 我不够苗条，不够有钱，不够漂亮，不够聪明，职位不够高。”
- The thing that underpinned this was excruciating vulnerability.
- 而支撑这种心态的是一种刻骨铭心的脆弱，
- This idea of, in order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen.
- 关键在于要想产生关系，我们必须让自己被看见，真真切切地被看见。
- And you know how I feel about vulnerability. I hate vulnerability.
- 你知道我怎么看待脆弱。我恨它。
- And so I thought, this is my chance to beat it back with my measuring stick.
- 所以我思考着，这次是轮到我用我的标尺击溃它的时候了。
- I'm going in, I'm going to figure this stuff out, I'm going to spend a year,
- 我要闯进去，把它弄清楚，我要花一年的时间，
- I'm going to totally deconstruct shame, I'm going to understand how vulnerability works, and I'm going to outsmart it.
- 彻底瓦解耻辱，我要搞清楚脆弱是怎么运作的，然后我要智取胜过它。
- So I was ready, and I was really excited. As you know, it's not going to turn out well.
- 所以我准备好了，非常兴奋。跟你预计的一样，事与愿违。
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| 重点单词 | 查看全部解释 | |||
| understand | [.ʌndə'stænd] | |||
| stick | [stik] | |||
| absolutely | ['æbsəlu:tli] | |||
| figure | ['figə] | 联想记忆 | ||
| opportunity | [.ɔpə'tju:niti] | |||
| vulnerability | [.vʌlnərə'biliti] | |||
| smart | [smɑ:t] | |||
| capacity | [kə'pæsiti] | 联想记忆 | ||
| universal | [.ju:ni'və:səl] | |||
| beat | [bi:t] |
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