If almost every Destiny's Child song is your life anthem, throw your hands up at me. Independent women are often perceived as man-hating feminists who are intimidating and cold. It's easy to misunderstand us, but the truth of the matter's that we're a different breed. We're strong willed, comfortable with ourselves, and above all, self-reliant. So when something or someone challenges us in anyway, we're not the most soft spoken. But that's not to say we're not as compassionate and loving as the next person. We just have a more direct route of getting from point A to point B, whether in conversation or life. So to avoid any "intimidating and cold" responses the next time you speak to us, try to refrain from using any of the following phrases.
如果天命真女组合的每一首歌都是你的人生写照，那请举个手。通常，人们都认为独立女性是仇视男人的女权主义者，认为她们令人生畏、冷酷无情。人们很容易误解独立女性，但事实是我们的确不是一类人。我们意志坚定、喜欢我们自己，最重要的一点，我们自力更生。所以当某事或某人挑战我们时，我们可不是软柿子。但我们也像其他人一样有同情心和爱心。只是从这一点到那一点，我们有更直接的途径，无论是对话还是生活。所以，下一次和我们这类人说话时，为了避免得到"令人生畏、冷酷无情"的回答，你还是尽量克制自己不要说下列这些话。
1. "You're going by yourself?"
1. "你一个人去？"
Telling someone you went out to dinner alone or on a solo movie date evokes almost the same reaction as would saying you played catch with yourself. Some give you that sad look and others just don't get it. No, it's not lonely or depressing for us. We're comfortable enough to have a great time on our own. In fact, it's the best way to achieve mental clarity and self-awareness, and personal outings are something more should embrace.
当你告诉别人自己一个人出去吃晚饭或看电影时，别人的反应就像是你说自己和自己打球一样。有些人会同情你，而有些人则疑惑不解。不，我们一点也不觉得孤单、难过。我们很喜欢自己独处。事实上，这是获得精神纯净和自我意识的最佳方式，而且独自远足更值得拥有！
2. "He completes me."
2. "他让我完整。"
I'm sorry - were you only half a being before? This phrase may seem "romantic" but if you think about it, it's kind of sad. Saying that another person is responsible for making you feel whole suggests that you can't stand on your own. Independent women love themselves first before loving anyone else, which is why we're not as hung up when insignificant flings don't work out.
抱歉--那你之前只是半个人吗？这句话看起来可能很"浪漫"，但细想起来，却有点悲伤。说另一个人让自己完整就意味着自己无法独立。独立女性在爱别人之前，首先会爱自己，所以当露水情缘没有修成正果时我们并不会一哭二闹三上吊。
3. "Why are you single?"
3. "你为什么单身？"
Simple - because we want to be. Sure, we may have options, but we don't want to waste our time on meaningless relationships. We like to surround ourselves with those smarter and better than us. If we don't believe the potential candidate can contribute equal or better qualities, there's no appeal.
很简单--因为我们想要单身。当然，我们有对象可选，但我们并不想在毫无意义的恋情上浪费时间。我们喜欢和比自己更聪明、更优秀的人交往。如果潜在对象没有和我们相同或更好的品质，那他是没有吸引力的。
4. "He should pay because he's the guy."
4."他是男人，理应由他付钱。"
Who doesn't enjoy being treated once in a while? But once it becomes an expectation, that's when it gets problematic. Ladies, we work and pay bills, too.
谁不想偶尔有人请客吃饭呢？但一旦成为期望，问题就来了。女士们，我们也有工作，我们也应该付账单。
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