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Such child behavior problems are symptomatic of our times. Our trouble is that we always seem to go to extremes. Parents are either too permissive or too pushy. Healthy child rearing demands a middle ground. Certainly we need to make demands on our children. But they have to be tailored to the child's interests and abilities. We put our children at risk for short-term stress disorders and long-term personality problems when we ignore their individuality and impose our own priorities "for their own good."
此类孩子的行为问题是我们时代的反应。我们的问题在于我们似乎总是走极端。父母不是太宽容放任就是太执意强求。健康的儿童养育需要一种中间立场。我们无疑需要对我们的孩子提出要求。但这些要求应适应孩子的兴趣和能力。当我们无视他们的个性，“为了他们好”而把我们自己最为关注的东西强加于他们时，我们就把我们的孩子置于短期的紧张病和长期的个性问题的危险中了。
I believe that we need to abandon the false notions that we can create exceptional children by early instruction, and that such children are symbols of our competence as parents. And I believe we should be as concerned with character as with success. If we have reared a well-mannered, good, and decent person, we should take pleasure and pride in that fact. More likely than not, if we have achieved those goals, the child's success will take care of itself. Each child has a unique pattern of qualities and abilities that makes him or her special. In this sense, every single child is a super kid.
我认为我们应该放弃这样错误的观念，即我们可以通过早期教育培养出出众的孩子，这样的孩子是我们作为父母称职的标志。我还认为，我们应该像关心成功一样关心性格。如果我们培养出一个彬彬有礼、心地善良、作风正派的人，我们就应该为此感到高兴和自豪。如果我们达到了这些目标，那么孩子的成功很可能就会水到渠成。每个孩子都有其独特的品质和能力，使其与众不同。从这个意义上说，每一个孩子都是超级孩子。
