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Here are the top five signs that it might be time to break up.
以下的五大迹象可能是分手的节点。
Ending a relationship is never a small decision and it's different for everyone.
结束一段感情从来都不是一个小决定，每个人的选择都不一样。
Nobody can tell you when to call it quits, but there are some signs out there that may be glaring signals that this relationship is no longer healthy.
没有人能告诉你什么时候该结束这段关系，但是有一些明显的信号表明这段关系已经不再健康了。
At the most severe is abuse: Physical, emotional, any form of abuse.
最严重的信号是虐待:身体上的，情感上的，任何形式的虐待。
Abuse is unacceptable and it is simply impossible to have a healthy relationship if abuse is happening.
虐待是不可接受的，如果发生虐待，就不可能有健康的关系。
If you cannot get out at a minimum seek out therapy to help you cope and develop a plan for safety.
如果你不能逃脱，至少寻求治疗来帮助你应对和制定一个安全计划。
Second is lack of respect.
第二是缺乏尊重。
And this may show up as not listening, devaluation of you and your time.
这可能表现为不倾听，贬低你和你的时间。
In the absence of respect there is also no possibility of a healthy relationship.
在缺乏尊重的情况下，也不可能有健康的关系。
Third is repeated betrayals.
第三是反复背叛。
Betrayal doesn't necessarily end a relationship but it definitely cracks the foundation.
背叛不一定会结束一段关系，但它肯定会破坏关系的基础。
If this doesn't change and the betrayer is not taking responsibility, then the there is no trust which is a requirement for a sustainable relationship.
如果这种情况没有改变，背叛者不承担责任，那么就没有信任可言，而信任是维持一段可持续关系的必要条件。
Fourth is neglect.
第四是忽视。
Your partner doesn't notice you, respond to you, care about you.
你的伴侣不注意你，不回应你，不关心你。
It's the relationship equivalent of dying on the vine and it can make the relationship lonelier than even being in one.
这种关系相当于逐渐死去，它甚至会让一段关系变得更孤独。
Fifth is constant conflict that never resolves.
第五是永远无法解决的持续冲突。
Arguments happen in healthy relationships, but constant arguments about the same thing that never resolve are a sign of a relationship that has become very unhealthy for the people in it.
在健康的关系中会发生争吵，但如果对同一件事不断争吵，永远无法解决，就表明这段关系对双方来说已经变得非常不健康了。
