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- How often do you find yourself saying or doing things without a second thought?[qh]
-你发现自己经常不假思索地说话或做事吗？[qh]
Are you in control of your emotions or do you often react immediately to your surroundings?[qh]
你能控制自己的情绪吗？还是经常对周围环境立即做出反应？[qh]
Emotional maturity is more than a matter of age, it's about the way you treat yourself and those around you.[qh]
情绪成熟不仅仅是年龄的问题，更重要的是你对待自己和周围人的方式。[qh]
It doesn't always come easy and you may even find yourself struggling with it for years.[qh]
这并不总是一帆风顺的，你甚至可能会发现自己要与之斗争多年。[qh]
If you'd like to start trying to be a better, more emotionally mature person today, then here eight things emotionally mature people don't do.[qh]
如果你想从今天开始努力成为一个更好、更成熟的人，那么这里有八件事是情绪成熟的人不会做的。[qh]
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Number one, overreact.[qh]
第一，反应过度。[qh]
Do you often let your feelings get the best of you?[qh]
你经常让自己的感觉占据上风吗？[qh]
Do you tend to say or do things you know you'll regret later?[qh]
你是否倾向于说或做一些你知道以后会后悔的事情？[qh]
An aspect of being emotionally immature is the tendency to overreact to everything since you don't know how to deal with difficult situations in a calm and constructive manner.[qh]
情绪不成熟的一个方面是，当你不知道如何以冷静和建设性的方式处理困难的情况时，往往会对所有事情反应过度。 [qh]
You may have a short temper, have frequent mood swings, and are likely to get angry and frustrated when things don't go your way.[qh]
你可能脾气暴躁，情绪频繁波动，当事情不如人意时，你很可能会生气和沮丧。[qh]
Number two, do you often hold grudges against people who have upset you?[qh]
第二，你经常怨恨让你难过的人吗? [qh]
While it's natural to feel angry, disappointed, or frustrated with the people you love for doing you wrong, [qh]
因为你爱的人对你做错了而感到愤怒、失望或沮丧是很正常的， [qh]
holding grudges to purposefully punish them or make them feel guilty in return is a sign of emotional immaturity.[qh]
但心怀怨恨，故意惩罚他们或让他们感到内疚，这是情感不成熟的表现。[qh]
It takes a lot to forgive someone who has hurt you and even more to try and understand from their point of view.[qh]
原谅伤害过你的人需要很多力气，更需要从他们的角度去理解。[qh]
Number three, emotionally blackmail people.[qh]
第三，情感勒索。[qh]
Have you ever given someone the silent treatment as a form of payback?[qh]
你是否曾经把沉默作为一种报复? [qh]
Emotional blackmail is a concept popularized by Psychotherapist Susan Forward.[qh]
情感勒索是心理治疗师苏珊·弗劳德推广的一个概念。[qh]
And it's a common dynamic of many toxic relationships where one tries to control and manipulate the other through tactics such as fear, obligation, and guilt.[qh]
这是许多有害关系中常见的动态，一方试图通过恐惧、义务和内疚等策略来控制和操纵另一方。 [qh]
Other examples of this include withdrawing affection, acting passive-aggressive, and threatening to end the relationship or replace them with someone else.[qh]
其他的例子包括收回感情，采取消极攻击的行为，威胁要结束这段关系或用其他人取代他们。 [qh]
Number four, deny your problems.[qh]
第四，否认你的问题。[qh]
Do you run away from your problems or live in denial of them?[qh]
你是逃避问题还是否认问题? [qh]
All those who are more emotionally mature understand that overcoming their problems, pushing through their struggles and facing their fears is the healthiest way to truly grow as a person.[qh]
所有情感成熟的人都明白，克服问题、克服困难、直面恐惧是真正成长为人的最健康的方式。[qh]
Those who are emotionally immature tend to live in denial and distract themselves from confronting their problems.[qh]
那些情感上不成熟的人往往生活在否认中，分散自己的注意力，不去面对他们的问题。[qh]
So it may be a sign that you're emotionally immature if you have the habit of avoiding and running away from conflict.[qh]
因此，如果你有避免和逃避冲突的习惯，这可能是你情绪不成熟的迹象。[qh]
Number five, blame others.[qh]
第五，责怪别人。[qh]
Do you take responsibility for your own actions?[qh]
你对自己的行为负责吗？[qh]
People who are quick to play the blame game and point their finger at everyone but themselves lack the self-awareness to own up to their mistakes and take responsibility for their actions.[qh]
那些急于推卸责任，把矛头指向除了自己以外的所有人的人，缺乏承认错误并为自己的行为负责的自我意识。[qh]
Always blaming other people for the things that go wrong in your life is an unhealthy and immature way of coping with the shame and guilt you may feel when you do something wrong.[qh]
总是把自己生活中出现的问题归咎于别人，这是一种不健康、不成熟的方式来应对当你做错事时可能会感到的羞耻和内疚。 [qh]
Number six, beat yourself up.[qh]
六号，打击自我。[qh]
Do you often get mad at yourself for even the tiniest mistake or beat yourself up over the things that are out of your control?[qh]
你是否经常因为哪怕是最微小的错误而对自己生气，或者因为无法控制的事情而打击自己? [qh]
Another way emotional immaturity may manifest itself is through constant and excessive self-criticism.[qh]
情绪不成熟的另一种表现方式可能是通过持续和过度的自我批评。[qh]
Therefore learning to value self-love, self-compassion, and to learn to forgive yourself for mistakes you make is a step towards emotional maturity.[qh]
因此，学会珍惜自爱、自怜，学会原谅自己所犯的错误，是迈向情感成熟的一步。[qh]
Number seven, act self-absorbed.[qh]
第七，表现出自我陶醉的样子。[qh]
Do you feel the need to be the center of attention a lot of the time?[qh]
你是否觉得很多时候都需要成为关注的焦点? [qh]
This want for attention or validation from others may be because you base your self-worth on how others see you.[qh]
想要得到别人的关注或认可，可能是因为你把自己的自我价值建立在别人对你的看法上。[qh]
As a result, you may end up constantly putting your own needs before others, or by demanding that others give in to what you want and need.[qh]
因此，你最终可能会不断地把自己的需求放在别人之前，或者要求别人向你想要的和需要的让步。[qh]
Number eight, always need to be right.[qh]
第八，永远要正确。[qh]
Have you ever found yourself getting really angry and frustrated with someone because you insist on being right?[qh]
你是否曾经发现自己对某人非常生气和沮丧，因为你坚持自己是对的? [qh]
This sign of emotional immaturity is a refusal to listen to what other people have to say because you feel the need to always be right.[qh]
这种情绪不成熟的表现就是拒绝听别人说的话，因为你觉得需要永远保持正确。[qh]
Refusing to openly discuss, or debate with others, or to have your opinions be challenged, may be a sign of emotional immaturity.[qh]
拒绝与他人公开讨论或辩论，或拒绝让人质疑你的观点，可能是情绪不成熟的表现。[qh]
Do you relate to any of the signs mentioned here?[qh]
你和这里提到的任何迹象有关吗？[qh]
If so, what do you plan to do next?[qh]
如果是这样的话，你下一步计划做什么？[qh]
Tell us about it in the comments below.[qh]
请在下面的评论中告诉我们。[qh]
If you enjoyed this video, please like, and share with others who may find it helpful too.[qh]
如果你喜欢这段视频，请点赞，并与其他可能觉得有帮助的人分享。[qh]
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订阅Psych2Go，点击通知按钮了解更多心理学内容。[qh]
All the references used are also added in the description box below.[qh]
所有使用的参考资料也会添加在下面的说明框中。 [qh]
Thank you for watching and we'll see you in our next video.[qh]
感谢收看，我们下个视频见。[qh]
