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Do you have these 7 signs of emotional intelligence?
这七种情绪智力迹象，你有么？
We all know what an IQ is and that most of us fall within the average range.
我们都知道IQ，大部分人的IQ都处于平均水平。
We use names like smart, intelligent, dumb, idiot and stupid when talking about a person's level of intelligence.
当谈及一个人的智力水平时，我们喜欢用机灵、聪明、笨蛋、傻子、蠢蛋这样的词汇。
What most people don't know is that we also possess an EQ, or EI, which is our level of emotional intelligence.
多数人不知道的是，我们也有EQ或EI，这是我们的情绪智力水平。
Emotional intelligence is typical to measure in numbers
情绪智力常用数字衡量
because it is that thing inside us that recognizes emotions in ourselves and others, then guides us to respond.
因为这是我们认知自己和他人的情绪，然后做出回应的内在。
Understanding emotions may seem unimportant or trivial but in fact it is the opposite.
了解情绪看似并不重要，但事实却截然相反。
It is widely believed by experts that a person's level of emotional intelligence may be a better predictor of success and overall hapiness than their IQ.
专家们普遍认为一个人的情绪智力水平或许比智力商数能更好地预测这个人的成功和快乐。
What is emotional intelligence?
什么是情绪智力？
Having a high level of emotional intelligence means that you can accurately express your feelings and take responsibility for them.
拥有高情商意味着你可以准确地表达自己的情绪，为他人负责。
People often say things like ''You hurt my feelings and you shouldn't have'' which puts blame on the other person for the way you feel.
人们常说“你伤害了我的感情，你不应该这么做。”这是以自己的感受归罪于其他人。
A person with high EI realises the feeling belongs to him and responds with statements such as ''I was hurt by that''.
高情商的人能意识到属于自己的感情并用“我被伤害了”这样的陈述句作出回应。
Being emotionally intelligent means that you can identify and manage not only your own emotions but the emotions of others too.
高情商意味着你可以辨别和应对自己的情感也能辨别和应对别人的情绪。
It means you have awareness of your own feelings and are able to balance emotion and reason.
这意味着你能意识到自己的情感并能够平衡情感和理智。
You can recognize feelings and emotion in others and show empathy and compassion which is a crucial part of all relationships - both business and personal.
你能够识别别人的情绪和情感并表现到出同感和同情，这是所有人际关系中最关键的部分—不论是工作还是私人。
For example, a good leader has the ability to understand what motivates others and build on that motivation.
例如，一位好的领导知道如何激励别人并建立这种激励。
7 signs you are emotionally smart.
高情商的七种迹象。
Although emotional intelligence is not completely understood, it has become increasingly know that it plays a critical role in our quality of life.
虽然高情商并不完全被理解，但是大家都知道情商在提高生活质量上起关键作用。
A person who is emotionally intelligent generally has better physical health, a more positive outlook,
高情商的人一般都身体更健康、拥有更加乐观的看法、
fulfilling relationships and is more successful than those with low EI.
满意的人际关系，他们比那些低情商的人更加成功。
1. You can read non-verbal communication.
1. 你可以读懂非语言交际。
This means you are able to look at someone and know by the look on their face,
这意味着你能够观察别人并通过观察他们的面部表情
the way they hold their arms, their posture or etc. and tell what their mood is.
他们抱肘的动作以及他们的姿势等分辨出他们的心情。
2. You are interested in other people and their feelings and thoughts.
2.对其他人、他们的情感和想法感兴趣。
When someone asks you ''What are you thinking about?'' it shows their interest and understanding.
当别人为你“你怎么看？”，这表明他们的兴趣和理解。
Emotionally intelligent people want to know and understand others and genuinely listen to their answers.
高情商的人想知道并了解别人，愿意真诚地倾听他们的回答。
3. You are emotionally resilient.
3. 有情绪上的复原能力。
Bad things happen in life - you lose a good job, your significant other moves on without you.
生活中遭遇不好的事情时，比如丢工作、失去重要的人。
You have setbacks and know there will be more coming.
你会受到挫折，知道还会有更多的坏事。
However, you also know you are strong enough to persevere until better times come. You do not internalize failure.
但是你也知道自己足够坚强能够等待希望的来临。你并没有把失败藏在心里。
4. You know where you need improvement
4. 你知道自己哪方面需要提升。
People with low EI make the world believe they know everything and can do anything.
低情商的人让这个世界相信自己无所不知无所不能。
When something goes wrong they put the blame anywhere but on themselves.
当事情出错时，他们把责任归咎别人，唯独不责怪自己。
If you have a high EI, you know the areas in your life that need improvement.
如果你拥有高情商，你知道自己哪方面需要改善。
You are always learning and therefore always growing.
你总是在学习，一直在成长。
5. You are aware of your own feelings.
5. 你能意识到自己的情感。
You know how you are feeling, what caused the feeling and how to process and deal with the feeling.
你知道自己的情感，是什么导致了这种情感以及如果处理。
Your feelings guide you towards finding a solution rather than shutting you down.
你的情感带领着你，让你找到解决的方法而非将自己的心门关闭。
6. You avoid negative self-talk.
6. 你避免消极的自我对话。
When something does not go right, even if it was by your own mistake, you do not berate and belittle yourself.
当事情出问题时，即使是你自己的错误，你也不会斥责贬低自己。
You are able to acknowledge what went wrong and explore your options for solving the problem, then move forward and do so.
你能够承认错误并找到解决问题的方法，继续向前。
7. You pursue success.
7.你追求成功。
You have dreams and strategies to make those dreams a reality.
你有梦想，有实现梦想的策略。
You set goals regardless of how long it takes you to meet each one.
不论这段路程有多长，你都会制定目标。
You deal with setbacks, adjust shortcomings and know that the only way you will lose is if you quit.
你能应对挫折，调整缺点，也知道唯一的失败是自己放弃。
How many of these qualities do you possess?
以上你占了几条？
The good news is that unlike brain intelligence, our IQ, emotional intelligence can be raised to some extent.
好消息是，EQ和IQ并不相同，情绪智力是可以得到一定程度的提高的。
Part of our EI is innate, part of it is shaped by environment and another part is our attitude.
我们的部分情绪智力是天生的，部分是经过后天环境雕琢的，而另一部分则是我们的态度。
Are you willing to learn to understand and conquer your emotions? Are you interested in becoming a better problem solver?
你愿意了解并征服自己的情感么？你想变成更好的问题解决者么？
Do you want to achieve your goals?
你想实现自己的目标么？
Developing your emotional intelligence allows you the opportunity to avoid miscommunications and misunderstandings.
发开自己的情绪智力能赋予你避免词不达意和误会的机会。
It deepens your relationships and helps you balance work, home and fun in a meaningful way.
它能够深化你的人际关系，并以一种有意义的方式帮助你平衡工作、家庭和欢乐。
Remember the biggest determinate of success is measured by EQ, not IQ.
记住成功最大的核心是由EQ而非IQ测量的。
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