1.We’d like to sharesome of thepositive meaningslove has for us.

1、我们想与大家一起分享我们对爱的一些积极看法。(love has forus是定语从句，修饰some of thepositive meanings一些积极意义；would like todo sth. 想要做某事)

2. Love meansthatI know the personI love. I’m aware ofthe many sidesofthe other person-not justthe beautiful sidebut alsothelimitations,inconsistenciesand faults. Ihave an awareness ofthe other’sfeelings and thoughts, and Iexperiencesomething of the core of that person. I canpenetratesocial masks and roles and see the other personon a deeper level.

2、爱就意味着了解所爱之人。能够认识到(be aware of 知道)这个人的各个方面——不仅仅（not just）是美好的一面，还有(but also)他的局限、他的矛盾之处(inconsistencies是inconsistency复数形式)、他的缺点。要看到这个人的情感和思想，要感受他的内心世界。要能够透过（penetrate）他在社交场合的表现（social marks 社会面具）和他的社会角色（roles）而看到他的内心深处(on a deeper level 在更深层次上；直译：从更深层面上了解这个人)。(本段中出现的the person,the other person, that person都在讲“所爱之人”)

3. Love meansthatI care about the welfare of thepersonI love.To the extent thatit is genuine, my caringisnotpossessive, nordoesithold the otherperson back.On the contrary,my caringfreesboth of us.IfIcare aboutyou, I’m concerned aboutyour growth,and I hopeyou will become allthat you can become.Consequently, I don’t put upobstacles towhatyou dothatenhancesyou as a person，even thoughit mayresult inmydiscomfortat times.

3、爱就意味着关心所爱之人的幸福（welfare = happiness）。真正的爱不是占有（not possessive），也不是束缚(nor does ithold the other person back 是由nor引导的“倒装句”，助动词does要置于主语之前)(to theextent that 就…来说；genuine adj. 真实的，真正的；诚恳的；hold back 阻止；抑制)。相反（on the contrary），两人都在爱中得到自由。关心（care about）一个人就是关心（be concerned about）他的成长，希望他可以尽其所能有所成就（that you can become 作定语，修饰all）。因此（consequently），我不会为他的个人发展（what you do that enhances you as aperson; enhance vt. 提高；加强）设置障碍(obstacle to 对…的障碍；后跟名词、名词性词组或句子，作定语)，即使（even though）有时(at times)这样会给我带来不便(result in my discomfort)。

4. Love meanshavingrespect forthe dignity of the personI love.IfI love you, I canseeyouas a separate person, with your own values and thoughts andfeelings, and I do notinsist that(引导宾语从句)you surrenderyour identityto match an image of what I expectyou to befor me. I canallowandencourageyou to stand aloneand to bewho you are, and Iavoid treatingyou as anobjector usingyou primarilyto satisfy my own needs.

4、爱就意味着尊重所爱之人的尊严。（mean +句子或动名词; haverespect for 尊敬; dignity n. 尊严；高贵）爱一个人，就是将其视作一个独立的（separate adj.）人，有他自己的价值观、思想和感情。我不会为了自己而坚持(insist)要他放弃个性（surrender your identity）来变成我所希望的他(to match animage of what I expect you to be，不定式作目的状语)。我能允许并鼓励他与众不同（to stand alone），成为他自己(to be who you are)。我不会视他如物，或利用它来满足自己的需要。(allow andencourageto do sth. 不定式作宾语；avoiddoingsth. 动名词作宾语)

5. Love meanshaving aresponsibilitytoward the person I love. If I loveyou, Irespond tomost of your major needsas aperson. This responsibility does not includemy doing for youwhatyou are capable of doing for yourself; nor doesit mean that I run your life for you.Instead, it meansacknowledgingthatwhat I am and what I doaffects you,so thatIamdirectly involved inyour happiness and your suffering. A loverdoeshave the capacity tohurt or ignorethe loved one, andinthis sensewe seethatloveinvolvesan acceptance ofsomeresponsibility forthe impactmy way of being has on you.

5、爱就意味着对所爱之人负责（responsibility n.责任；义务）。爱一个人，就要对他作为独立的个体的需求做出回应（respond to 响应；对…反应，后接名词或名词性词组）。这种负责不包括你要为他做“他可以自己做的事情”(what you arecapable of doing for yourself; be capable of v. 能够；有能力)，也不是操纵他的生活（nor does itmean that I run your life for you是由nor引导的“倒装句”，助动词does要置于主语之前）。相反（instead），这种负责是承认(acknowledgevt.)我的所作所为（what I am andwhat I do）会影响到他（that 引导宾语从句，what I am and what I do 是宾语从句中的主语），因此，他的欢乐和痛苦都与我休戚相关（be involved in 涉及到…；包括…中）。相爱着的人有时真的（does 加强语气）会伤害或忽略对方（have the capacity to 有…能力；the loved one 中的loved是过去分词作定语），所以，我们知道，爱就是要为自己的行为对对方产生的影响(the impact my way ofbeinghas on you; my way of being has on you 是定语从句，修饰the impact )承担某种责任。（这里I是“付出爱”的一方，you是“被爱”的一方。）

6. Love meansmaking a commitmentto theperson I love. Thiscommitmentdoes not meansurrenderingour totalselvesto each other; nor doesitimply thattherelationship is necessarilypermanent.Itdoesinvolve a willingnessto stay witheach otherin times ofpain, struggle, anddespair,as well asin times of calm and enjoyment.

6、爱就意味着对所爱之人做出承诺(make acommitment)。这种承诺并非意味着完全把自己交给对方（surrender to 屈服；selves n. 自己，自我，是self的复数；可译为：这种承诺并非意味着要完全屈服于彼此），也不是意味着（imply; that 引导宾语从句）这一关系一定要永远不变(necessarily adj. 必定地; permanentadj. 永久的) （nor does itimply that the relationship is necessarily permanent是由nor引导的“倒装句”，助动词does要置于主语之前）。这种承诺真的（does加强语气）意味着不论在艰难困苦、失意绝望时，还是（as well as）在恬适欢乐时，都愿意厮守相伴(willingnessn. 心甘情愿；意愿；stay with 同…住在一起；不定式to stay with 作定语，修饰a willingness；in times of 在…的时候；despair n. 绝望)。

7. Love meanstrustingthe person I love. If I love you，I trustthatyouwillacceptmy caring andmy loveand thatyouwon’tdeliberately hurt me. I trustthatyouwillfind me attractive,and thatyouwon’tabandon me; I trustthemutualnature of our love.Ifwe trust eachother, weare willing tobe open toeach other and reveal our true selves.

7、爱就意味着信赖所爱之人。爱一个人，就要相信他会接受我的关心， 接受我的爱，相信他不会故意地（deliberatelyadv.）伤害我；相信自己对他有吸引力，相信他不会抛弃(abandon vt.)我；相信爱是相互的(mutual adj. 共同的；相互的)。如果我们彼此信赖，我们就愿彼此开诚布公，敞开心扉（be willing to do sth.愿意；be open to 对…开放；reveal vt. 显示；透露）。

8. Love cantolerateimperfection. In a loverelationshipthere are timeswhenI am bored,times whenI mayfeel likegiving up，times of realstrain, and times I feel I can’tmove forward. Authenticlove does not implyenduringhappiness. I can stayduringrough times, however,becauseI can rememberwhat we had togetherin the past，and I canpicturewhat we will have together inour futureifwe careenough toface our problemsandworkthem through. Weagree withthe ideathatlove is a spiritthatchanges life. Love isa way of lifethatiscreativeandthattransforms. However, loveisnot reservedfora perfectworld. Loveis meant forourimperfect worldwhere things go wrong.Loveis meant tobe a spiritthatworksin painful situations.Loveis meant tobringmeaning into lifewhere nonsenseappears to rule. In other words, love comes into an imperfect worldto make it possible to live.

8、爱能够容忍不完美。爱人之间有时会感到厌烦（when引导的定语从句修饰times; 以下同为此用法），有时会想放弃（fell like doing sth.），有时感到压力，有时感到羁绊(move forward 向前移动；向前发展)。真正的（authentic adj.）爱并不意味着永远幸福(enduring adj.持久的)。但是，在困难（rough adj. 艰苦的）时期我能坚守（stay vi.），因为我仍记得我们共同度过的往昔，我也能想象(picture vt.)，如果我们愿意（enough to do sth. 足够…去做）直面问题，渡过难关(work them through)，我们将共同拥有什么样的未来。我们一致认为(agree with 和…意见一致)爱是一种精神，这种精神能改变人生（第一个that引导的定语从句修饰the idea，第二个that引导的定语从句修饰a spirit）。爱是一种生活方式，它具有创造和改变的力量（that…and that…引导的定语从句修饰a way of life）。但是爱并不只是完美世界所独有(be reservedfor 留作)，爱本来就是为我们这个不完美、有缺陷的（where things go wrong）世界而存在的（be meant for 注定成为；where 引导的定语从句修饰our imperfectworld；go wrong 弄错；出毛病）。爱应该是一种能缓解痛苦的精神力量(be meant to 应该是；必须；that引导定语从句，修饰a sprite；可直译：爱是一种精神，这种精神于苦痛之中发挥着作用(work))。爱应该给我们这充满荒谬(where nonsense appears to rule，where引导的定语从句修饰life)的生活带来意义（meaning）(bring into v. 使开始；使进入某种状态)。换言之(in other words)，是爱使我们在这个不完美的世界上生活下去(make itpossible to do sth. 使做某事成为可能)。

9. Love isopen. If I love you, I encourage youtoreach outand develop other relationships. Althoughour love for each otherandour commitment to each othermight prohibitcertainactionson our parts，weare nottotallyandexclusivelymarried to each other. It is a false lovethatcementsone personto anotherin such a waythathe or sheis not given roomto grow.

9、爱是大方的。爱一个人，就要鼓励（encourage）其与他人建立联系（reach out 伸出）。尽管对彼此的爱与承诺不允许(prohibit vt. 阻止，禁止)我们有某些行为，这种结合也不是全然排他的（totally and exclusively）（be married to嫁给某人，娶某人；与…结婚）。两个人密不可分（cement vt. 巩固；接合），再无其他发展的空间（give room 让开；腾地方），这样的爱是不明智的。

10. Love isselfish. I canonlylove youifIgenuinelylove, value,appreciate,andrespectmyself.IfI am empty, thenallI can give youis my emptiness.IfI feelthatI’m complete andworthwhilein myself, then I’m able togive to youout of myfullness.One of the best ways for me to give you loveis byfollyenjoying myself with you.

10、爱又是自私的。如果我真正（genuinely）自爱、自重、自赏、自尊，才能(can only)爱别人。如果我空虚，那么我能给所爱之人的全部（all I can give you）也只有空虚（emptiness）（all 是句子的主语，I can give you是all的定语）。如果我觉得自己是完满的、出色的（worthwhile adj. 值得做的；值得的），那么我就能以自己的充实（out of my fullness）为所爱之人增光（give to 给予；赠给）(网上直译：假如我觉得自己充实完整并活得有价值，那么我也能给予你的就是充实完整)。表达爱的最好方法之一就是与所爱之人一起充分体验自己（直译：表达“我爱你”的最好方法之一就是和所爱的人一起做傻事）。

11. Loveinvolvesseeingthe potentialwithinthe personwe love. In mylove for another, I viewher or him asthe personshe orhe can become,whilestillacceptingwho and whattheperson isnow. By takingpeople as they are, wemake themworse, but by treating them as if they already werewhat they ought to be, wehelpmakethembetter.

11、爱就要看到所爱之人的内在潜力（we love 作the person的定语）。爱他/她，就要接受今日之所作所为(accepting whoand what the person is now)，也要视其所能为（she or he can become 作the person的定语；view…as…认为…是…；把…看作…）。视人静止不变（take as 把…看作是…），则令其退步（make the worse），待他如同他的潜力已经发挥（treat… as if 把…看作好似…），则助其进步（help make them better；help 使役动词，后跟不带to的不定式）

1.We’d like to sharesome of thepositive meaningslove has for us.

1、我们想与大家一起分享我们对爱的一些积极看法。(love has forus是定语从句，修饰some of thepositive meanings一些积极意义；would like todo sth. 想要做某事)

2. Love meansthatI know the personI love. I’m aware ofthe many sidesofthe other person-not justthe beautiful sidebut alsothelimitations,inconsistenciesand faults. Ihave an awareness ofthe other’sfeelings and thoughts, and Iexperiencesomething of the core of that person. I canpenetratesocial masks and roles and see the other personon a deeper level.

2、爱就意味着了解所爱之人。能够认识到(be aware of 知道)这个人的各个方面——不仅仅（not just）是美好的一面，还有(but also)他的局限、他的矛盾之处(inconsistencies是inconsistency复数形式)、他的缺点。要看到这个人的情感和思想，要感受他的内心世界。要能够透过（penetrate）他在社交场合的表现（social marks 社会面具）和他的社会角色（roles）而看到他的内心深处(on a deeper level 在更深层次上；直译：从更深层面上了解这个人)。(本段中出现的the person,the other person, that person都在讲“所爱之人”)

3. Love meansthatI care about the welfare of thepersonI love.To the extent thatit is genuine, my caringisnotpossessive, nordoesithold the otherperson back.On the contrary,my caringfreesboth of us.IfIcare aboutyou, I’m concerned aboutyour growth,and I hopeyou will become allthat you can become.Consequently, I don’t put upobstacles towhatyou dothatenhancesyou as a person，even thoughit mayresult inmydiscomfortat times.

3、爱就意味着关心所爱之人的幸福（welfare = happiness）。真正的爱不是占有（not possessive），也不是束缚(nor does ithold the other person back 是由nor引导的“倒装句”，助动词does要置于主语之前)(to theextent that 就…来说；genuine adj. 真实的，真正的；诚恳的；hold back 阻止；抑制)。相反（on the contrary），两人都在爱中得到自由。关心（care about）一个人就是关心（be concerned about）他的成长，希望他可以尽其所能有所成就（that you can become 作定语，修饰all）。因此（consequently），我不会为他的个人发展（what you do that enhances you as aperson; enhance vt. 提高；加强）设置障碍(obstacle to 对…的障碍；后跟名词、名词性词组或句子，作定语)，即使（even though）有时(at times)这样会给我带来不便(result in my discomfort)。

4. Love meanshavingrespect forthe dignity of the personI love.IfI love you, I canseeyouas a separate person, with your own values and thoughts andfeelings, and I do notinsist that(引导宾语从句)you surrenderyour identityto match an image of what I expectyou to befor me. I canallowandencourageyou to stand aloneand to bewho you are, and Iavoid treatingyou as anobjector usingyou primarilyto satisfy my own needs.

4、爱就意味着尊重所爱之人的尊严。（mean +句子或动名词; haverespect for 尊敬; dignity n. 尊严；高贵）爱一个人，就是将其视作一个独立的（separate adj.）人，有他自己的价值观、思想和感情。我不会为了自己而坚持(insist)要他放弃个性（surrender your identity）来变成我所希望的他(to match animage of what I expect you to be，不定式作目的状语)。我能允许并鼓励他与众不同（to stand alone），成为他自己(to be who you are)。我不会视他如物，或利用它来满足自己的需要。(allow andencourageto do sth. 不定式作宾语；avoiddoingsth. 动名词作宾语)

5. Love meanshaving aresponsibilitytoward the person I love. If I loveyou, Irespond tomost of your major needsas aperson. This responsibility does not includemy doing for youwhatyou are capable of doing for yourself; nor doesit mean that I run your life for you.Instead, it meansacknowledgingthatwhat I am and what I doaffects you,so thatIamdirectly involved inyour happiness and your suffering. A loverdoeshave the capacity tohurt or ignorethe loved one, andinthis sensewe seethatloveinvolvesan acceptance ofsomeresponsibility forthe impactmy way of being has on you.

5、爱就意味着对所爱之人负责（responsibility n.责任；义务）。爱一个人，就要对他作为独立的个体的需求做出回应（respond to 响应；对…反应，后接名词或名词性词组）。这种负责不包括你要为他做“他可以自己做的事情”(what you arecapable of doing for yourself; be capable of v. 能够；有能力)，也不是操纵他的生活（nor does itmean that I run your life for you是由nor引导的“倒装句”，助动词does要置于主语之前）。相反（instead），这种负责是承认(acknowledgevt.)我的所作所为（what I am andwhat I do）会影响到他（that 引导宾语从句，what I am and what I do 是宾语从句中的主语），因此，他的欢乐和痛苦都与我休戚相关（be involved in 涉及到…；包括…中）。相爱着的人有时真的（does 加强语气）会伤害或忽略对方（have the capacity to 有…能力；the loved one 中的loved是过去分词作定语），所以，我们知道，爱就是要为自己的行为对对方产生的影响(the impact my way ofbeinghas on you; my way of being has on you 是定语从句，修饰the impact )承担某种责任。（这里I是“付出爱”的一方，you是“被爱”的一方。）

6. Love meansmaking a commitmentto theperson I love. Thiscommitmentdoes not meansurrenderingour totalselvesto each other; nor doesitimply thattherelationship is necessarilypermanent.Itdoesinvolve a willingnessto stay witheach otherin times ofpain, struggle, anddespair,as well asin times of calm and enjoyment.

6、爱就意味着对所爱之人做出承诺(make acommitment)。这种承诺并非意味着完全把自己交给对方（surrender to 屈服；selves n. 自己，自我，是self的复数；可译为：这种承诺并非意味着要完全屈服于彼此），也不是意味着（imply; that 引导宾语从句）这一关系一定要永远不变(necessarily adj. 必定地; permanentadj. 永久的) （nor does itimply that the relationship is necessarily permanent是由nor引导的“倒装句”，助动词does要置于主语之前）。这种承诺真的（does加强语气）意味着不论在艰难困苦、失意绝望时，还是（as well as）在恬适欢乐时，都愿意厮守相伴(willingnessn. 心甘情愿；意愿；stay with 同…住在一起；不定式to stay with 作定语，修饰a willingness；in times of 在…的时候；despair n. 绝望)。

7. Love meanstrustingthe person I love. If I love you，I trustthatyouwillacceptmy caring andmy loveand thatyouwon’tdeliberately hurt me. I trustthatyouwillfind me attractive,and thatyouwon’tabandon me; I trustthemutualnature of our love.Ifwe trust eachother, weare willing tobe open toeach other and reveal our true selves.

7、爱就意味着信赖所爱之人。爱一个人，就要相信他会接受我的关心， 接受我的爱，相信他不会故意地（deliberatelyadv.）伤害我；相信自己对他有吸引力，相信他不会抛弃(abandon vt.)我；相信爱是相互的(mutual adj. 共同的；相互的)。如果我们彼此信赖，我们就愿彼此开诚布公，敞开心扉（be willing to do sth.愿意；be open to 对…开放；reveal vt. 显示；透露）。

8. Love cantolerateimperfection. In a loverelationshipthere are timeswhenI am bored,times whenI mayfeel likegiving up，times of realstrain, and times I feel I can’tmove forward. Authenticlove does not implyenduringhappiness. I can stayduringrough times, however,becauseI can rememberwhat we had togetherin the past，and I canpicturewhat we will have together inour futureifwe careenough toface our problemsandworkthem through. Weagree withthe ideathatlove is a spiritthatchanges life. Love isa way of lifethatiscreativeandthattransforms. However, loveisnot reservedfora perfectworld. Loveis meant forourimperfect worldwhere things go wrong.Loveis meant tobe a spiritthatworksin painful situations.Loveis meant tobringmeaning into lifewhere nonsenseappears to rule. In other words, love comes into an imperfect worldto make it possible to live.

8、爱能够容忍不完美。爱人之间有时会感到厌烦（when引导的定语从句修饰times; 以下同为此用法），有时会想放弃（fell like doing sth.），有时感到压力，有时感到羁绊(move forward 向前移动；向前发展)。真正的（authentic adj.）爱并不意味着永远幸福(enduring adj.持久的)。但是，在困难（rough adj. 艰苦的）时期我能坚守（stay vi.），因为我仍记得我们共同度过的往昔，我也能想象(picture vt.)，如果我们愿意（enough to do sth. 足够…去做）直面问题，渡过难关(work them through)，我们将共同拥有什么样的未来。我们一致认为(agree with 和…意见一致)爱是一种精神，这种精神能改变人生（第一个that引导的定语从句修饰the idea，第二个that引导的定语从句修饰a spirit）。爱是一种生活方式，它具有创造和改变的力量（that…and that…引导的定语从句修饰a way of life）。但是爱并不只是完美世界所独有(be reservedfor 留作)，爱本来就是为我们这个不完美、有缺陷的（where things go wrong）世界而存在的（be meant for 注定成为；where 引导的定语从句修饰our imperfectworld；go wrong 弄错；出毛病）。爱应该是一种能缓解痛苦的精神力量(be meant to 应该是；必须；that引导定语从句，修饰a sprite；可直译：爱是一种精神，这种精神于苦痛之中发挥着作用(work))。爱应该给我们这充满荒谬(where nonsense appears to rule，where引导的定语从句修饰life)的生活带来意义（meaning）(bring into v. 使开始；使进入某种状态)。换言之(in other words)，是爱使我们在这个不完美的世界上生活下去(make itpossible to do sth. 使做某事成为可能)。

9. Love isopen. If I love you, I encourage youtoreach outand develop other relationships. Althoughour love for each otherandour commitment to each othermight prohibitcertainactionson our parts，weare nottotallyandexclusivelymarried to each other. It is a false lovethatcementsone personto anotherin such a waythathe or sheis not given roomto grow.

9、爱是大方的。爱一个人，就要鼓励（encourage）其与他人建立联系（reach out 伸出）。尽管对彼此的爱与承诺不允许(prohibit vt. 阻止，禁止)我们有某些行为，这种结合也不是全然排他的（totally and exclusively）（be married to嫁给某人，娶某人；与…结婚）。两个人密不可分（cement vt. 巩固；接合），再无其他发展的空间（give room 让开；腾地方），这样的爱是不明智的。

10. Love isselfish. I canonlylove youifIgenuinelylove, value,appreciate,andrespectmyself.IfI am empty, thenallI can give youis my emptiness.IfI feelthatI’m complete andworthwhilein myself, then I’m able togive to youout of myfullness.One of the best ways for me to give you loveis byfollyenjoying myself with you.

10、爱又是自私的。如果我真正（genuinely）自爱、自重、自赏、自尊，才能(can only)爱别人。如果我空虚，那么我能给所爱之人的全部（all I can give you）也只有空虚（emptiness）（all 是句子的主语，I can give you是all的定语）。如果我觉得自己是完满的、出色的（worthwhile adj. 值得做的；值得的），那么我就能以自己的充实（out of my fullness）为所爱之人增光（give to 给予；赠给）(网上直译：假如我觉得自己充实完整并活得有价值，那么我也能给予你的就是充实完整)。表达爱的最好方法之一就是与所爱之人一起充分体验自己（直译：表达“我爱你”的最好方法之一就是和所爱的人一起做傻事）。

11. Loveinvolvesseeingthe potentialwithinthe personwe love. In mylove for another, I viewher or him asthe personshe orhe can become,whilestillacceptingwho and whattheperson isnow. By takingpeople as they are, wemake themworse, but by treating them as if they already werewhat they ought to be, wehelpmakethembetter.

11、爱就要看到所爱之人的内在潜力（we love 作the person的定语）。爱他/她，就要接受今日之所作所为(accepting whoand what the person is now)，也要视其所能为（she or he can become 作the person的定语；view…as…认为…是…；把…看作…）。视人静止不变（take as 把…看作是…），则令其退步（make the worse），待他如同他的潜力已经发挥（treat… as if 把…看作好似…），则助其进步（help make them better；help 使役动词，后跟不带to的不定式）。

12. To sum itup,matureloveisunionunder the condition ofpreserving one’s individuality. In love，two beingsbecomeoneand yetremaintwo. 

12、归根结底（to sum it up; to sum up 总之），成熟的爱就是保持个性(preservingone’s individuality)条件下的双方结合(union)。两个人(two beings)由于爱合二为一，又仍是两个独立的个体。。

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