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How Smart People Deal with People They Don’t Like
如何巧妙应对讨厌的人？

They voice their own needs.

表明自己的需求和立场

If certain people constantly tick you off , calmly let them know that their manner of behavior or communication style is a problem for you. Avoid accusatory language and instead try the“When you…I feel…”formula. For example, Cacaiola advises you to tell that person,“When you cut me off in meetings, I feel like you don’t value my contributions.”Then, take a moment and wait for their response.

如果有人总是惹你生气，你可以直接平静地告诉他，他们的行为习惯或说话方式已经对你产生了很大的困扰。不过，你要避免使用指责性语言，尽量使用“你做……的时候，我感到……”的正式语言。

You may find that the other person didn’t realize you weren’t finished speaking, or your colleague was so excited about your idea that she enthusiastically jumped into the conversation.

例如，在会议上，你也许会发现，有些人根本没有意识到你还没结束发言，但有些人则对你的想法非常感兴趣，开始积极热情地参与到对话中了。这时，Cacaiola就建议你这样说：“当你在会议上打断我时，我觉得你不是很尊重我的付出。”然后，你只需对他的反应静观其变。

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