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Welcome to our program, friends and relationships.
朋友们，欢迎来到我们的节目。
Our guest today is psychologist Steve Pinker from McGill University.
我们今天的嘉宾是麦吉尔大学的心理学家史蒂夫·平克。
Glad to be here, Jane.
很高兴来到这里, 简。
Hi Steve. Our question today is why friends suddenly disappear.
嗨, 史蒂夫。我们今天的问题是为什么朋友会突然消失。
They may block us on their social media accounts and stop responding to our emails.
他们可能会在社交媒体账户上屏蔽我们，不再回复我们的电子邮件。
They simply vanish without a trace.
它们消失得无影无踪。
The answer may lie in childhood.
答案可能就在童年时期。
The way the person related to their mum and dad, it's related to their attachment styles.
一个人与父母的关系，与他们的依恋类型有关。
Attachment styles?
依恋类型?
Yeah. There are two different attachment styles, an anxious attachment style and an avoidant attachment style.
是的。存在两种不同的依恋类型，焦虑依恋型和回避依恋型。
When there is a relationship breakdown with their parents, children with an anxious attachment style scream and cry to get their parents to come back.
当与父母的关系破裂时，焦虑依恋型儿童会叫喊、会哭泣，让父母回来。
But other children simply shut down and try to deal with their emotions by ignoring the situation.
但其他儿童则干脆关闭自己，试图通过忽视这种情况来处理自己的情绪。
And these attachment styles carry on into adulthood.
这些依恋类型会持续到成年期。
Does avoidance reduce their stress levels?
逃避能降低他们的压力水平吗?
Not really. Their stress levels are actually the same as those experienced by the children who yell and scream.
也不能。他们的压力水平实际上与那些喊叫的孩子所经历的压力水平相同。
And I assume both might be termed insecure.
我想这两种类型都可以被称为不安全型依恋。
Exactly. And it's a very insecure attachment.
完全正确。这是一种非常不安全的依恋。
How does an insecure attachment affect relationships between friends, coworkers, and romantic relationships?
不安全型依恋是如何影响朋友、同事和恋人之间的关系的?
It’s the same as conflicts.
这与冲突一样。
So if you have a disagreement with a securely attached person they're not going to panic.
如果你和安全型依恋的人有分歧，他们不会恐慌。
They're able to hear what the other person is saying and express their own feelings and thoughts effectively.
他们能够听到别人在说什么，有效地表达自己的感受和想法。
However, an insecurely attach person won’t.
然而，一个不安全依恋型的人不会这么做。
They might either attack you, get defensive, or just disappear from your life.
他们可能会攻击你，进行防御，或者只是从你的生活中消失。
To them, a difference, no matter how small in your eyes, signals the end of the relationship.
不管在你眼里事情有多小，但对他们来说，差异标志着关系的结束。
That explains why they suddenly disappear.
这就解释了为什么他们会突然消失。
Questions 8 to 11 are based on the conversation you have just heard.
请根据你刚刚听到的对话回答8 - 11题。
Q8. What do we learn about the man?
问题8：关于这个男人，我们了解到了什么信息？
Q9. What are the speakers mainly talking about?
问题9：说话者主要在谈论什么?
Q10. How do children with an anxious attachment style react to a breakdown in their relationship with parents?
问题10：焦虑依恋型儿童在与父母关系破裂时会有什么反应?
Q11. What does the man say about insecurely attached people?
问题11: 关于不安全依恋型的人，男士说了什么?
