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What are the best ways to design a successful first date?
设计成功的初次约会的最佳方法是什么？
The first date may rank up there with a job interview for some people when it comes to anxiety and sadly, disappointment.
对于某些人来说，初次约会可能与工作面试一样令人焦虑，甚至令人失望。
But if you can shape what this first date is going to look like, here are some thoughts:
但如果您可以塑造初次约会的模样，以下是一些想法：
First, do something that has what feels like a finite end: a meal, coffee, happy hour, even taking a walk or have a meaningful hard out to alleviate that sense of when does this end?
首先，做一些感觉有明确结局的事情：一顿饭、一杯咖啡、欢乐时光，甚至散步或有意义的性爱，以缓解这种何时结束的感觉。
And if the end of the night thing feels a bit much, then try for during the day or early evening to lighten up that pressure.
如果晚上结束感觉有点过分，那么尝试在白天或傍晚结束，以减轻压力。
Second, bring physical activity into it; a walk, an easy hike, even a climbing wall can sometimes be a way to avoid awkward pauses and always give you stuff to look at and comment on.
其次，进行体育活动；散步、轻松徒步旅行，甚至攀岩墙有时都是一种避免尴尬停顿的方法，并且总是有东西可以看和评论。
Third, be outdoors. I am a big believer that once you take the roof off that we are more invigorated.
第三，到户外去。我坚信，一旦您掀开屋顶，我们就会更加精神焕发。
It can be a sidewalk cafe, sandwiches on a park bench, or even a local beach.
它可以是人行道上的咖啡馆、公园长椅上的三明治，甚至是当地的海滩。
Again, there's always something to look at or people to watch to fill in the pauses.
再次强调，总有一些东西可以看，或者有人可以观察，以填补停顿。
Fourth, and this may be a quirk in me, but if the other person is up for it, maybe do something interactive together like a board game, an escape room, something that requires you to have a back and forth and work together.
第四，这可能是我的一个怪癖，但如果对方愿意，也许可以一起做一些互动的事情，比如棋盘游戏、密室逃脱，一些需要你们来来回回、共同努力的事情。
Finding ways to lift the pressure, mix it up. Avoid the overly intense love bomby first day and also do activities that may give you some insight into this person.
找到减轻压力的方法，混合起来。避免在第一天就过于激烈地轰炸爱情，也可以做一些可以让你对这个人有所了解的活动。
This can all be a way to make that first date seem a little fun, and worst case, you might get a workout out of it.
所有这些都可以让第一次约会看起来有点有趣，最糟糕的情况是，你可能会从中锻炼身体。
