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Here are four reasons you may keep getting ghosted.
以下是你可能一直被“人间蒸发”式对待的四个原因。
Ghosting in its simplest form means a person disappears and no longer communicates.
“人间蒸发”最简单的意思是一个人消失了，不再交流。
It can feel hurtful and dismissive.
这会让人感到伤自尊和被轻视。
In some cases, ghosting is used as a way for someone to avoid engaging with someone who made them uncomfortable.
在某些情况下，“人间蒸发”是人们避免与让他们不舒服的人接触的一种方式。
There are a few reasons people may get ghosted.
人们被“人间蒸发”式对待有几个原因。
The first may be a fear of confrontation.
首先可能是害怕当面对质。
Ghosters are not always sinister.
“人间蒸发者”并不总是险恶的。
Sometimes they are people who don't feel comfortable, letting someone down or potentially having to defend their choices so they cut and run.
有时他们是那种让别人失望以后，或者可能不得不为自己的选择辩护而感觉不舒服的人，所以他们临阵脱逃了。
It's more about them than you.
他们比关心你更关心自己。
Second, some folks may ghost when there is no interest and it's early in the game.
其次，有些人可能会在没有兴趣和恋爱初期就离开。
In the volume dating era we are in, some folks assume that not being in touch is understood by everyone as no thanks.
在我们所处的大批量约会时代，有些人认为不联系被公认为不感兴趣。
Third, it may speak to circumstances in the ghosters’ life or about a part of their life you didn't know.
第三，它可能与“人间蒸发者”的生活环境有关，或者与你不知道的一部分生活有关。
They may have reconnected with an ex or were already in a relationship.
他们可能和前任重新联系上了，或者已经在谈恋爱了。
Variables like shame may make it easier to just go silent.
羞耻感等变量可能会让人更容易保持沉默。
Fourth, some ghosters will say they ghost because they've gotten burned in the past when they didn't.
第四，一些“人间蒸发者”会说他们之所以人间蒸发，是因为他们被过去的经历折磨，而实际上他们并没有。
They may have ended it with someone and faced an abusive rant, so they may figure that going silent would be less stressful.
他们可能已经和某人结束了一段关系，并面临着谩骂，所以他们可能认为保持沉默会减轻压力。
The longer the relationship the more painful ghosting is.
关系越久，“人间蒸发者”就越痛苦。
After one date most people don't care, but I know someone who got ghosted after 6 years and that felt like an episode of Black Mirror.
一次约会之后，大多数人都不在乎了，但我知道有人在约会6年后还经历了“人间蒸发”，感觉就像《黑镜》中的一集。
Exit game.
退出游戏。
By and large when you are ghosted it's usually not about you.
总的来说，当你被“人间蒸发”式对待时，通常不是你的问题。
