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Hey, Psych2Goers, welcome back to another video.
嘿，Psych2Go的观众们，欢迎观看我们的视频。
Before we start, we would like to thank you all for the support that you've given us.
在开始之前，我们要感谢你们所有人对我们的支持。
As you know, Psych2Go's mission is to make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone, and you help us do that.So thank you.
如你所知，Psych2Go的使命是让每个人都能更容易地获得心理健康和心理学知识，你们帮我们做到了这一点。所以谢谢你们。
Now, back to the video.
现在，让我们回到视频。
How attractive do you think you seem to other people?
你觉得你在别人眼里有多有吸引力？
Are you insecure about certain parts of yourself?
你对自己的某些部分没有安全感吗？
Everyone has their own insecurities about themselves, and may fear how it may come off for other people.
每个人都有自己的不安全感，可能会担心别人会有什么反应。
But you never know, those very same qualities in yourself that you're insecure about are traits that some people may actually appreciate, and find attractive.
但你永远不会知道，那些让你感到不安全的品质其实也是一些人真正欣赏的品质，并发现它们很有吸引力。
While there's certainly some truth in the saying, no one can know you better than you know yourself, when it comes to attractiveness, sometimes we just can't tell because we're so hard on ourselves.
虽然这句话肯定有一定道理，但没有人比你更了解你自己了，当谈到吸引力时，有时我们就是说不出来，因为我们对自己太苛刻了。
To help you with that, here are eight flaws that actually make you more attractive.
为了帮助你做到这一点，这里有八个缺点，这些缺点实际上会让你更有吸引力。
Number one, you're shy.
第一，你很害羞。
Do you speak in a soft voice, but prefer to keep quiet most of the time?
你说话的声音是不是很轻，但大部分时间都喜欢保持安静？
Are you the type to duck your head, or fidget when people look at you?
当人们看到你的时候，你是那种会低下头，左立不安的人吗?
While you may have a hard time believing this, there are actually a lot of people out there who find shyness an attractive trait to have.
虽然你可能很难相信这一点，但实际上有很多人发现害羞是一种吸引人的特质。
In a world where sociable, talkative, take charge types of people are all clamoring to be the center of attention, t
在这个世界上，好交际、健谈、负责任的人都吵着要成为关注的焦点，
here may be something refreshing about being with someone who likes to listen, more than they like to talk.
和一个喜欢倾听而不是说话的人在一起，可能会让人耳目一新。
After all shy, people are often seen as more mysterious, intriguing, and down to earth compared to others.
毕竟害羞的人通常被认为比其他人更神秘、更耐人寻味、更脚踏实地。
Number two, you're clumsy.
第二，你笨手笨脚的。
Another trait that some find surprisingly attractive is clumsiness.
有些人觉得另一个令人惊讶的吸引人的特质是笨拙。
In fact, psychology says that men in particular tend to find clumsiness in women to be attractive,
事实上，心理学认为，男性尤其倾向于发现女性的笨拙更具吸引力，
not only because it makes them seem more genuine, youthful, and excitable, but also because it makes them feel needed.
这不仅是因为这让她们看起来更真诚、更年轻、更容易激动，还因为这让她们感到被需要。
Clumsiness also makes people feel compelled to approach you, and to help you out when you're in a rut.
笨手笨脚也会让人觉得有必要接近你，并在你墨守成规的时候帮助你。
According to statistics, only a small percentage of you who watch our videos are actually subscribed.
据统计，只有一小部分看过我们视频的人真正订阅了我们的视频。
So if you haven't, and at the end of the video you enjoy what you see, do consider subscribing.
所以，如果你还没有订阅，在视频的最后你喜欢这个视频，请考虑订阅。
It would help a lot with YouTube's algorithm in promoting more of our mental health content.Thanks for being here.
这将有利于用YouTube算法来推广更多我们的心理健康内容。谢谢你看到这里。
Number three, you're easily embarrassed.
第三，你很容易感到尴尬。
Do you often get flustered when people tease you, or get embarrassed when your friends poke fun at you for something?
当人们取笑你时，你是否经常感到慌乱，或者当你的朋友因某事取笑你时，你会不会感到尴尬？
Do you tend to blush, squeal, or cover your face when this happens?
当这种情况发生时，你会脸红、尖叫或遮住你的脸吗？
While this may seem like a flaw to some people, being easily embarrassed is quite an attractive trait to others, especially to men.
虽然这在一些人看来可能是一种缺陷，但对于其他人，特别是对男性来说，很容易感到尴尬是一个相当吸引人的特点。
Similar to the previous point, people who are easily embarrassed seem more genuine because they don't try to hide their true feelings.
与前面的观点类似，容易感到尴尬的人看起来更真诚，因为他们不会试图掩饰自己的真实感受。
Number four, you're nerdy.
四号，你是个书呆子。
Those who get called nerds, or geeks, often get a bad reputation for loving something deeply. But what's so wrong with that?
那些被称为“书呆子”或“奇客”的人常常因为深爱某事而名声不佳。但这有什么错呢？
Whether it's comic books, anime, video games, Broadway musicals, or some other obscure interest not a lot of people can relate to.
无论是漫画、动漫、电子游戏、百老汇音乐剧，还是其他一些鲜为人知的兴趣，都不是很多人能理解的。
Being a nerd isn't something you should be ashamed of.
对某件事情痴迷不是你应该感到羞耻的事。
In fact, there are some who find nerds attractive for the very same reasons they're criticized for.
事实上，有些人觉得书呆子很有吸引力，原因和他们被批评的原因是一样的。
They're driven, excited, and most of all, passionate about the things they enjoy.
他们有动力，有激情，最重要的是，对自己喜欢的事情充满激情。
Number five, you're too honest.
第五，你太诚实了。
Do you always say what you mean?
你总是直言不讳吗？
To those who are tired of listening to everyone, telling them what they want to hear, it can be nice to have someone who always tells the truth, no matter what.
对于那些厌倦了倾听每个人，告诉他们他们想听的东西的人来说，有一个无论如何都讲真话的人是很好的。
Being honest can be a very attractive trait because it means that you're not going to waste their time by beating around the bush, or by playing mind games with them.
诚实是一种非常有吸引力的品质，因为这意味着你不会通过拐弯抹角或与他们玩心理游戏来浪费他们的时间。
Despite how difficult it may be, you are able to just come out, and say what they need to hear.
不管有多难，你都可以站出来，说他们需要听的话。
Number six, you're an oversharer.
第六，你会过度分享。
Oh, I shouldn't have said that. Sorry, I've been talking and sharing so much. Does this sound like you?
哦，我不该那么说的。对不起，我说了很多话，分享了很多东西。这听起来像你吗？
Well, the good news is, one of the silver linings to being an oversharer is that it makes you seem more sincere and approachable.
好消息是，作为一个过度分享者的一线希望是，它让你看起来更真诚，更平易近人。
While some may prefer a mystery, there are those who like it when someone is an open book.
虽然有些人可能更喜欢神秘，但也有一些人喜欢很容易看透的人。
This may be because your openness creates a comfortable environment for them to open up, and to share things about themselves they don't usually share.
这可能是因为你的率真为他们创造了一个舒适的环境，让他们敞开心扉，分享他们通常不会分享的东西。
It makes it easier for them to develop closeness and intimacy in a relationship.
这会让他们更容易在一段关系中建立亲近、亲密的关系。
Number seven, you take things slow.
第七，你做事喜欢慢慢来。
Do you always take a long time making decisions because you tend to overthink things, and focus on all the details?
你总是花很长时间做决定，因为你倾向于想太多事情，而专注于所有的细节吗？
Do you always have a lot going on in your mind?
你脑子里总是有很多事吗？
You're probably a deep thinker, and the type who likes to observe the situation before forming an opinion.
你可能是一个深思熟虑的人，而且是那种喜欢在形成观点之前观察情况的人。
Unlike those who are always craving excitement, or chasing one thrill after the other in their lives,
与那些总是渴望刺激，或者在生活中追逐一种又一种刺激的人不同，
you appreciate and savor the peace and quiet in your life, and prefer to take your time with things,
你欣赏和品尝生活中的平静和宁静，更喜欢花时间处理事情，
and to people who feel the same way, this can be a very appealing quality to have.
对于那些有同样感受的人来说，这可能是一种非常有吸引力的品质。
And number eight, you crave support.
第八，你渴望得到支持。
As humans, it's normal to crave affection from others,
作为人类，渴望他人的爱是正常的，
though it's true that sometimes people who openly desire warmth, sympathy, and encouragement from others, can be a bit off-putting at times, and especially when they seem too needy, or desperate.
尽管有时公开渴望温暖、同情和鼓励的人有时会有点令人不快，尤其是当他们看起来太迫切或绝望的时候。
There is something nice about being with someone who makes you feel needed, whether it's kind words, sweet gestures, thoughtful gifts, or simply time and attention.
和一个让你感觉被需要的人在一起有一种美好的感觉，无论是友善的话语、甜蜜的手势、体贴的礼物，还是仅仅是时间和关注。
Having a partner who wants and asks for support can be a very attractive quality.
拥有一个渴望并需要支持的伴侣可能是一个非常有吸引力的品质。
Did you find any of these surprising, or insightful?
你有没有发现其中任何令人惊讶或有见地的内容?
Let us know in the comments below.
请在下面的评论中告诉我们。
If you found this video interesting, be sure to like, and share this video with those who might benefit from it.
如果你觉得这个视频很有趣，一定要点赞，并与那些可能从中受益的人分享这个视频。
And don't forget to hit the subscribe button, and notification bar icon to get notified whenever Psych2Go post a new video.
不要忘记点击订阅按钮和通知栏图标，每当Psych2Go发布新视频时就会收到通知。
The references in studies used in this video are added in the description below.
本视频中使用的研究中的参考资料添加在下面的描述中。
Thanks so much for watching, and we'll see you in our next video.
感谢收看，下期视频再见。
