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嗨，欢迎收看本期节目。
Before we begin, we wanna thank you for your support on our channel.
节目开始前，我们要感谢你对我们频道的支持。
Our aim is to make psychology and mental health information engaging and accessible to you,
我们的目标是让有关心理学和心理健康的信息有趣、易懂，
and we hope you learn new things from our content.
我们希望你从我们的视频中学到新东西。
So thanks again.
再次表示感谢。
Let's begin.
我们开始吧。
Attractiveness is defined as certain qualities or features that make a person more desirable and alluring to others.
吸引力被定义为使一个人更具吸引力、更迷人的某些品质或特征。
It can significantly influence people's attitudes and it's one of the most common reasons people become interested in psychology.
它能显著影响人们的态度，这也是人们对心理学产生兴趣最常见的一个原因。
What is it exactly that makes someone so attractive?
到底是什么让一个人非常迷人？
Which of these traits do we look for in a friend or partner?
我们在朋友或伴侣身上寻找哪些特质？
According to psychology, here are eight of the most common things that make a person attractive.
根据心理学，以下是八种最常见的能让一个人变得有吸引力的事情。
Number one, confidence.
第一，自信。
Studies have shown that confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have.
研究表明，自信是一个人最有吸引力的品质。
When someone is confident, you're less likely to second-guess yourself, and you know and believe in your value.
当某人充满自信时，你就不太可能去猜测自己，你知道并相信自己的价值。
People notice when someone is confident in who they are and what they believe in.
某人对自己的身份和信念充满信心时，人们是能够意识到的。
And although it's common to imagine someone who is confident as outgoing and charismatic, confidence can also be quiet.
尽管人们通常认为一个自信的人性格外向，富有魅力，但自信也可以是寡言少语的。
Knowing your worth, believing in your strengths, and taking pride in who you are is what makes you confident,
知道自己的价值，相信自己的长处，为自己感到自豪，才是让你自信的原因，
regardless of if you're outgoing or not.
不管你是否外向。
Two, availability.
第二，可接近。
Availability is an important factor in how much we find someone attractive.
可接近性，是我们感觉一个人具有多大吸引力的重要因素。
Despite the common belief that we need to act distant or aloof to make people we like interested in us,
尽管人们普遍认为，我们需要表现得疏远，以使我们喜欢的人对我们感兴趣，
the opposite is actually true.
但事实恰恰相反。
When we're developing new relationships, it's important to find someone who can physically and emotionally be there for us.
当我们发展新关系时，重要的是找到一个能在身体和情感上支持我们的人。
And the more responsive, attentive and reliable someone is, the more we will come to value our relationship with them.
一个人越是能积极响应，越关注，越可靠，我们就越重视与他们的关系。
Three, uniqueness.
第三，独特性。
Although there are 7 billion people in the world, each of us is unique in our own ways.
虽然世界上有70亿人口，但我们每个人都是独特的。
No one looks, talks, act, thinks, or feels in exactly the same way, and that's what makes us so amazing.
没有人的外表、谈吐、行动、思考或感觉完全相同，这就是我们如此令人惊叹的原因。
But some people prefer to hide their uniqueness to fit in.
但有些人喜欢隐藏自己的独特性，以便与别人相处融洽。
When you learn to embrace what makes us special, whether it's our looks, experiences, ideas, or little quirks,
当你学会拥抱让我们与众不同的东西，无论是我们的外表、经历、想法，还是一些小怪癖，
we open ourselves up to the possibility of meeting new, engaging, and like-minded people.
我们就会敞开心扉，迎接崭新、迷人、志同道合的人。
Number four, kindness.
第四，善良。
Kindness is a quality that lots of people want in a friend or romantic partner.
善良是很多人想拥有的朋友或浪漫伴侣的品质。
In a study done by Baskerville and colleagues in the year 2000, they found that people tend to like people
巴斯克维尔及同事在2000年进行的一项研究中发现，人们倾向于喜欢
who showed more kindness, sympathy, and compassion than those who showed lesser levels of kindness.
表现出更多善意、同情和怜悯之情的人，而不是那些表现出较少善意的人。
At the end of the day, we all wanna be with someone who treats us as well as we would like to be treated.
到头来，我们都希望与能以我们喜欢的方式对待我们的人相处。
Five, intelligence.
五，智慧。
Intelligence is attractive because it often leads to stimulating conversations, deep insights, and a new way to look at the world.
智慧之所以有吸引力，是因为它常常能激发人们的对话、深刻的洞察力和看待世界的新方式。
A recent study in 2018 by psychologists Gignac and others found that for most participants, there is a particular IQ score
心理学家吉纳克等人在2018年进行的一项最新研究发现，对大多数参与者来说，智商获得特定得分，
that maximizes an individual's attractiveness but any higher would make them seem less desirable.
能最大限度地提高个人的吸引力，但过高的智商得分会让他们看起来不那么受欢迎。
In other words, people are attracted to those they perceive as more intelligent than them,
换言之，人们被那些他们认为比他们聪明的人所吸引，
but not so much that they become too intimidating or out of reach to talk to.
但并不是那些过于聪明，让人感到胆怯或无法与之交谈的人。
Six, passion.
六、激情。
Next is passion, the enthusiasm and desire to achieve a certain goal.
其次是激情，用于达到一定目标的热情和愿望。
People who are passionate tend to be driven, determined, and self-motivated,
充满激情的人往往奋发努力，意志坚定，还能自我激励，
but more importantly, they have things that matter a lot to them and that they care about significantly.
但更重要的是，他们拥有对他们来说很重要的东西，而且他们对其非常关心。
They have an interest and big dreams that appeal to the optimist in all of us,
他们有一种兴趣和远大的梦想，吸引着我们所有人中的乐观主义者，
which can inspire us to push ourselves to be better as well.
这也能激励我们驱动自己变得更好。
Seven, a sense of humor.
第七，幽默感。
Research has shown that we tend to be more attracted to the people who make us laugh, possibly because it shows cleverness, wit, and creativity.
研究表明，我们更容易被那些让我们发笑的人所吸引，这可能是因为他们表现出聪明、机智和创造力。
So it should come as no surprise that having a good sense of humor ranks high on the list of characters people look for in an ideal friend or partner.
因此，具有良好的幽默感在人们寻找理想朋友或伴侣的特质列表中，排在首位就不足为奇了。
In heterosexual relationships, women in particular, gravitate towards men they find funny while men favor women who are playful and good-humored.
在异性恋关系中，尤其是女性，更倾向于受到有趣男性的吸引，而男性则青睐那些顽皮、幽默的女性。
And number eight, their demeanor.
第八，举止。
Last but not least is our demeanor.
最后，但是重要的是，我们的举止。
While it's no secret that a person's looks have a lot to do with how attractive we find them, there's a lot more to it than someone's physical traits.
一个人的长相与我们对他们的吸引力有很大关系，这不是什么秘密。但除了某人的身体特征外，还有很多其他方面。
Psychologists have found that it takes us only 30 seconds to decide whether we find someone attractive
心理学家发现，我们只需30秒就可以决定是否找到一个有吸引力的人，
and our demeanor can make or break someone's impression of us.
而我们的行为举止会影响或破坏别人对我们的印象。
The way we dress, act, and carry ourselves also plays a part in how people perceive us.
我们的穿着、行为和生活方式也会影响人们对我们的看法。
When meeting new people, it can be helpful to take note of these things as they can make a world of a difference.
遇到新的人时，注意这些事情很有帮助，因为它们具有重要的影响作用。
While it's common for us to base the attractiveness off a person's physical traits, attractiveness can actually be more complex than that.
虽然我们通常把吸引力建立在一个人的身体特征上，但吸引力实际上可能比这更复杂。
And though we all have different ideas of what makes someone more or less attractive,
虽然我们对什么让某人更有吸引力或缺乏吸引力有不同的看法，
these are some of the most common and widely agreed upon traits.
但这些是最常见、也是被人们广泛认同的特质。
So, do you agree with the things we've mentioned in this video?
你同意我们在这段视频中提到这几点吗？
Do you also find these traits and qualities attractive?
你也觉得这些特质和品质很吸引人吗？
Leave us a comment down below.
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For similar topics, you can watch more in our videos Psychological Things That Can Make Us Less Attractive.
你可以在我们的《使人失去吸引力的心理事物》视频中看到更多类似的话题。
See you soon.
下期节目再见。
