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Esther! Hello. Hey. Okay, so I may not be ringing your doorbell right now,
埃丝特！你好。嘿。好吧，我现在可能不会按你的门铃了，
but here I am doing the first ever remote 73 Questions via video call.
但在这里，我会通过视频通话这样的方式远程完成有史以来第一个73个问题的采访。
With me! With you, it's a miracle of technology.
和我一起！是的，和你一起，这是科技的奇迹。
I've also never interviewed a world-renowned relationship therapist before and,
我以前也从来没有采访过世界知名的情感治疗师，
given the situation of things, I thought this could be appropriate.
考虑到目前的疫情形势，我认为这种方式可能是合适的。
You're gonna get a private session, is that what it is?
你要和我私下谈话，是这样吗？
Yep, a totally private session for me plus everyone else watching.
是啊，对我和其他人来说都是私人谈话。
So, the first thing I'd like to ask is, am I finding you safe and well right now?
所以，我想问的第一个问题是，我现在觉得你安全吗？
Yes, very much so, thanks a lot. That's great.
是的，非常安全，非常感谢。那太好了。
And, what's the biggest ray of hope for you at the moment?
你现在最大的希望是什么？
That I'll be able to touch my children again, I'm kind of touch-hungry.
我可以再次见到我的孩子，我有点渴望见到他们。
Are you still seeing your patients at all?
你还在给别人看病吗？
More than ever, yes, I am working very hard and seeing a lot of patients at this moment.
比以往任何时候都忙，是的，我现在都非常努力地工作，并且在这个时候去看了很多病人。
Would you say there's a central or recurring theme
现在你可以说说在你接诊的所有病人当中，
that's coming from pretty much all of your clients right now?
他们存在的主要问题是什么吗？
I think that, you know, one theme is that people either feel that
我认为，你知道，主要的问题是他们要么觉得
they are on top of each other 24 seven, way too much together, craving space,
他们无时无刻地待在一起，渴望有彼此的空间，
and others who are longing for connection because there is too much space between them and their loved ones
其他人则因为他们和爱人之间离得远而渴望待在一起，
or they don't have one close to them at this moment.
或者他们此刻还没有一个可以亲近的人。
So, that's probably the main tension I get.
所以那可能是我总结出的导致紧张关系发生的症结所在。
Now, you became well known for your TED Talks on long-term relationships and intimacy
现在，你的TED演讲是关于长期关系和性关系的，
and I checked recently, they have like 30 million views, which is so crazy,
我最近看了看，大概有3000万的浏览量，这太疯狂了，
but how has your life changed the most since being in the public eye?
自从成为公众人物开始你的生活是如何改变的？
Well, I get to talk to you and go from my office to Vogue,
好吧，我在跟你交谈，从在办公室里待着到可以上《时尚》杂志，
that's a change, you know?
这就是我的改变，你知道吗？
Well, this is definitely a big deal for me, that's for sure.
嗯，这对我来说绝对是件大事，这是肯定的。
But what would you say is the biggest personal challenge that you find yourself going through?
你可以说说自己经历过最大的挑战是什么？
At this moment, I would say the challenge for me
此时此刻，我要说的是，对我而言最大的挑战是
is how do I go back and forth between my fears and my hopefulness?
我如何在恐惧和希望之间来回穿梭。
What's the most frequent question that pretty much every single person is asking you right now?
现在你被问到的最常见的问题是什么？
How to find a way to maintain the space
如何找到一种方法来保持两个人之间的距离，
between two people so that desire can continue to thrive.
从而使欲望能够继续蓬勃发展。
And are you making any particularly important observations about relationships in this moment?
在这一刻，你对人际关系有什么特别重要的观察吗？
I think that people are finding that here's the thing.
我想人们发现事情就是这样的。
Every couple is going to either see the cracks in their relationship or every family,
每对夫妇要么就是他们之间的关系破坏要么家庭的关系破坏，
or they're going to see the light that shines through the cracks.
或者他们会从破坏的关系中看到可以修复的希望。
Okay now, there's gonna be plenty more advice questions later, don't you worry, it's coming.
好了，之后会有更多的问题是关于这方面的建议的，别担心，马上就会提及这个话题。
All right. But, tell me, Esther, what's the first thing that you did this morning?
好吧。但是，告诉我，埃丝特，你今天早上做的第一件事是什么？
I had my cup of coffee.
我喝了一杯咖啡。
And, what is one daily ritual that you recommend for everyone to try?
还有，你建议每个人每天都要尝试的一种习惯是什么？
I think, at this moment, we wake up, we put our feet on the floor,
我想，在这一刻，我们醒来，把脚放在地板上，
we keep them grounded, we open our chest and we breathe,
哪儿都不许去，扩胸呼吸，
breathe deep and we expand and we experience the spaciousness and the life inside of us.
深呼吸，增强呼吸力度，体验我们内心的宽广和生机勃勃。
And what were you doing the very second that I called?
我打电话的那一刻你在做什么？
I was working. You're always, I would imagine you're always working, is that right?
我在工作。你总是在工作，我想你总是在工作，对吗？
Not always, but a lot at this moment, yes. It helps me.
不总是在工作，但现在就是很忙，是的。它对我有帮助。
And is that where you get your work done, right there?
你就是在那里完成工作的，对吗？
In the kitchen, at this table, same spot, two months.
在厨房的这张桌子，两个月都是在这个地方。
Show me that kitchen, let's see that kitchen. Of my kitchen?
带我看看厨房，让我们看看厨房。去我的厨房吗？
Give me a little tour, yeah. Voila, here we go.
带我参观一下，好。好了，我们走。
Oh, that's nice, that's nice.
哦，厨房很不错，很好。
And what's a typical meal that you're preparing in that kitchen?
你在厨房做的特色菜是什么？
Way too many vegetables with olive oil and garlic, I can't take it anymore.
用橄榄油和大蒜做的素菜，大部分是蔬菜，我不能再吃了。
And who is a historical person that you would resurrect to enjoy a meal in that kitchen?
你想复活哪个历史上的人物并和他在那个厨房里就餐？
Oh, the perfect person for these days is Albert Camus who wrote the Plague.
噢，这个时候阿尔贝·加缪是最合适的人选，他写了一本叫《鼠疫》书。
Oh, that's a good answer. And Esther, what's your favorite museum?
哦，回答地不错。埃丝特，你最喜欢哪一个博物馆？
Insel Hombroich in Germany. What is your favorite film?
德国的霍姆布洛伊岛博物馆。你最喜欢哪部电影？
There is no such a thing. I have many movies that I adore.
没有哪一部电影是最喜欢的。我喜欢看很多部电影。
You're such a connoisseur, you don't have a favorite film? Look at that.
你真是个鉴赏家，连最喜欢的电影都没有？你看那个。
And, who is your favorite musical artist?
你最喜欢的音乐艺术家是谁？
Oh, I think I grew up really with Johann Sebastian Bach.
约翰·塞巴斯蒂安·巴赫，我认为他的音乐是陪伴着我长大的。
Ah, good choice. Now Esther, how would you describe you? Intense.
啊，这是个不错的选择。现在，埃丝特，你会如何形容你自己？我是一个热情的人。
