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And finally, another way to, to help other people is remembering what Carol Dweck was all about.
最后还有一种帮助别人的方式 回忆一下卡罗尔·徳韦克的研究
Rewarding effort. Rewarding the journey.
工作回报 过程的回报
It is so easy to fall into the track of rewarding outcome,
很容易陷入对结果的回报之中
and so easy to forget to reward the journey.
也很容易忘记回报过程
I know that's difficult in child rearing with my kids.
我在抚养我的小孩时就觉得很困难
And it's certainly difficult in a relationship.
在感情之中也很难做到
It's certainly difficult being the boss or a friend.
作为上司或者朋友当然也很难
But to really focus on rewarding the journey, on pointing out
但一定要注意回报过程 要指出来
"oh this was a great attempt" or "this was so much fun doing it"-the process.
“这是个不错的尝试” 或者“这真是太有趣了” 注重过程
I want to end this lecture by introducing a mini summary of the course so far.
我想通过做一个对至今为止所讲内容的小小总结来结束这个话题
This is a technique-quite a simple technique, but a technique that I found very powerful.
这是个技巧 一个很简单的技巧 但我发现是个很有用的技巧
Because what it does is synthesize a lot of what we discussed until now in the course.
因为它能够整合我们目前为止所见过的所有内容
And this specific technique I apply to difficult situations
我将这个技巧应用于各种困境中
when I'm facing periods in my life and it could be a long period
当我在面对人生中很困难的一段时期 可能是很长的一段时期
or one day that is very difficult for me.
也可能是很困难的一天时
You know, when I'm experiencing anxiety or stress,
当我感受到焦虑或压力
or strong levels, or high levels of disappointment.
或者深深的失望时
And this is the alternative in many ways to the three Ms-so remember the three Ms?
这是除了三个M之外的另一种选择 还记得三个M吗
Magnifying. Minimizing. And Making-up, inventing.
放大 减小 以及编造 发明
So the three Ps are the alternative. The first p is the Permission to be human.
三个P则是另一种选择 第一个P就是准许自己为人
So if I experience a difficult experience, I have some…I go through a hard time.
如果我经历了困难 我遇到了挫折
