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Can one of the TFs-do you mind seeing what it is, please? Thanks, John.
有助教能查查看它到底怎么了吗 谢谢 约翰
The next thing, after we accept it, we go ahead and change it.
下一步 在接受它之后 我们就去改变它
And we go ahead and change it by introducing behavior. The key issue here is behavior.
我们要通过建立行为来改变它 这里的关键在于行为
Now one of the things that I did as I told you last time
我上节课讲过的一件我做过的事
was started to solicit feedback from people, started to solicit criticism.
就是向别人寻求反馈 寻求批评
Initially, literally I need to catch myself from responding, from attacking back.
一开始我要控制自己不去回答 不去顶嘴反驳
Why? Because criticism is the deviation from a straight narrow, from that schema.
为什么 因为批评是对直线箭头的偏离 偏离那个基模
But over time I got used to it. It actually helped me.
但我逐渐习惯了 这真的帮到了我
And now I'm much open to criticism.
我现在更能够包容批评
Still, sometimes catch myself when I want to respond and attack back.
然而 我有时仍会想回答 想顶嘴反驳
But overall, I got better through behavior changing attitude.
但总体来说 我通过改变态度的行为变得更好
Something else-putting myself on the line more,
还有一点 使自己更经常处于水平线上
whether it's the story that I told you about Brittany,
包括我跟你们讲的关于布列塔尼的故事
who said no a few consecutive times. And that's OK. So she said no.
连续说了几次不 但没关系 她说不
I'm still here. I survived. Learn to fail or fail to learn.
我还在这 我还活着 屡战屡败 屡败屡战
Next, we don't always have to act out in the world;
下一步 我们不一定要外在地表现出行为
we can also act in our internal simulator-the mind doesn't know
我们也可以在内心中模拟 你的思想是无法
the difference between the real thing and the imaginary thing.
分辨现实和想象的区别的
And therefore, I can imagine myself, see myself, acting as a person committed to excellence.
因此我可以想象自己 幻想自己 就像一个追求卓越的人一样
So for example, before teaching, one of the things that I visualize
比如说在上课之前 我想象的一件事就是
is seeing myself there on the stage, feeling light, calm
假想我自己站在台上 感觉很轻松 冷静
and accepting-in other words, a way that a person committed to excellence would,
并且很包容 换句话说 想象追求卓越的人会用的方式
as opposed to a perfectionist would be constantly afraid of failure.
而非总是害怕失败的完美主义者
