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Children who come from dysfunctional families learn to take on roles in order to cope with toxic behaviors in their household.
不和谐的家庭的孩子为了应对家庭中的不良有害行为而学会去扮演某些角色。
Such upbringing affect their treats and habits they carry into adulthood.
这种养育方式影响了他们处理问题的方式以及习惯，并将之带入成年时期。
Those who come from a background of alcohol or drug abuse experienced a turbulent childhood
那些来自酗酒或吸毒家庭孩子的童年十分动乱
and end up playing certain roles to alleviate the sadness, humiliation or anger they feel.
最终，他们为了消除自己的悲伤、羞耻和愤怒而开始扮演某种角色。
Family dynamics that include other compulsive behavior such as gambling or overeating,
有赌博或过度饮食，
overly strict and religious attitudes, narcissism and physical, emotional or sexual abuse may also affect children to take on the same roles.
过度严厉的宗教态度、自恋和身体、情绪或性虐待等其他强迫行为的家庭可能会影响到孩子，让他们也表现出同样的行为。
People may identify with more than just one role when they grow up in chaotic households.
在这种混乱家庭中成长的人，他们可能会呈现出不止一种角色。
These are five types of children from toxic families.
以下是来自有毒家的庭孩子的五种类型。
1. The hero or responsible child. The hero or responsible child is wise and mature beyond their years.
1. 英雄或负责人的孩子。英雄或负责人的孩子比他们的实际年龄更加聪慧成熟。
Their self-sufficient, perfectionist, overachieving and seemingly composed,
他们极为自负，是个完美主义者、成就比预期更大的人，似乎也很镇定。
in reality though, they suffer silently and carry the burden of sadness from their parents toxic behavior.
但在现实中他们默默承受并肩负着父母有害行为的负担。
They are afraid of becoming like their parents so they learn to be the exact opposite.
他们害怕成为父母那个样子，所以他们学着成为正好相反的人。
For example, if the hero has a narcissistic and abusive parent,
例如，如果这名英雄的父母很自恋且恶语相向，
they usually try to be the favorite child, relying on good performance in order to receive love.
他们常会试着成为大人最喜爱的孩子，他们靠着良好的表现获得爱。
2. The scapegoat or troublemaker. The scapegoat or troublemaker is angry and defensive.
2. 替罪羊或捣乱者。替罪羊或捣乱者易怒且有防卫心。
At school the scapegoat is typically the leader within their social group and often get in trouble because that's how they learn to get the most attention.
在学校里，替罪羊是学校团体中的典型领导者，他们常陷入麻烦之中，因为这是他们博得关注的方法。
But because they've built walls around themselves out of fear, their relationship with others may be superficial.
但是出于恐惧他们会在自己的周围建立壁垒，因此他们和其他人的关系都很肤浅。
Toxic parents are usually extremely ashamed of them as they try to convey their situation by acting out family problems that are usually ignored at home.
有毒的父母以他们为耻，因为他们通过演绎家庭中被忽视的问题来传达自己的处境。
But beneath that hard exterior, they're very emotionally sensitive,
但是在那样坚硬的外表之下，他们非常敏感，
they're either the loud rebellious type or the one easily picked on and since they've been hurt by their abusive parent that can be self-destructive.
他们要么是吵闹的叛逆者要么是容易被欺负的类型，由于他们被父母的辱骂所伤害，所以他们有自杀欲望。
3. The lost child or dreamer. The lost child or dreamer is invisible within their family
3. 迷途羔羊或梦想家。迷途羔羊或梦想家在家里是隐形的
and tries to cope with the family's struggles by disappearing and reading books, daydreaming or watching movies.
他们会通过消失、读书、做白日梦或看电影来应付家庭的纷争。
They rarely get in trouble because everyone sees them as a good kid.
他们几乎不惹麻烦，因为每个人都认为他们是好孩子。
It's assumed they also have a good healthy life at home.
假装他们有着健康良好的家庭。
The lost child is typically very shy and enjoys having a lot of space and solitude, causing others to view them as loners.
迷途羔羊很害羞并享受着孤独和空间，所以别人会将他们视为孤独者。
Since they are more withdrawn, they struggled to develop important social skills and relationships with others and often suffer from low self esteem.
因为他们很孤僻，他们会努力的发展重要的社交技能和别人建立关系，自尊心也很低。
4. The mascot or class clown. The mascot or class clown is usually known as the cute one.
4. 吉祥物或班级小丑。吉祥物或班级小丑常被人为是可爱的人。
They're always ready to lighten the mood with jokes or entertaining shows.
他们随时做好了用笑话或有趣的表演缓解情绪的准备。
Their dysfunctional family makes them feel powerless so they try to cope by breaking the anger, tension and conflict with fun and humor.
他们的不和谐家庭让他们感到无力，因此他们试图用开心和幽默打破愤怒、紧张和冲突。
Most mascot children have a friendly disposition and are described as overly nice.
多数吉祥物式的孩子性情友好，常被描述为过度和蔼。
Mascot children enjoy helping others because it distracts them from their own problems.
吉祥物式的孩子喜欢帮助他人，因为这能使他们从自己的麻烦中分离出来。
Beneath their cheerful demeanor however, they usually suffer from low self-esteem, anxiety and depression
在他们快乐行为的背后，通常自尊心很低、患有焦虑和抑郁
developing workaholic tendencies to make up for their insecurities.
会发展成工作狂倾向并以此来弥补他们的不安全感。
They also find it painful to ask for help when they're hurt so they put on a brave smile for the world.
他们会觉得当自己受伤时，向别人寻求帮助很困难，因此他们对别人总挂着微笑。
5. The enabler or caretaker.
5. 使能者或守护者。
The enabler or caretaker is typically married to an addict but children can also take on this role.
使能者或守护者会和有瘾的人结婚，但是孩子们也会承担这种角色。
They listen to and console the addict while encouraging other families not to react negatively.
他们倾听并安慰有瘾者，但却鼓励其他家人不要做出负面反应。
Because the enabler doesn't know how to cope with toxic behavior,
因为使能者不知道如何应对有害行为，
they make excuses for the addicts alcohol or drug problems and deny such problems exist
所以他们会为酗酒或嗜药者找借口并否认问题的存在
masking the families downfalls to make sure the public sees them as a happy, well-rounded family.
从而使家人堕落，让外人相信他们是快乐全面的家庭。
Do you identify with one or more of these 5 types? Is there any advice you'd like to provide to those who come from toxic families?
你认同这些类型么？你能为那些来自有毒家庭的孩子提供什么建议呢？
Feel free to share your stories in the comments below.
请在下方评论分享你的故事。
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