This is lesson #48 from my book Little Things Matter, 100 Ways to Improve Your Life Today.
这是来自我的书《小事情重要》的48课,今天100种方法改善你的生活。
If you are like most people you probably spend more time worrying than you should. Worrying about job security, project deadlines, health, shrinking budgets, rising taxes, the housing market, world poverty, our children’s safety, even the weather. Some things we can control, others we clearly cannot. The key to maintaining a positive attitude in life is to know the difference.
如果你像大多数人一样,你可能花更多的时间用来担心。担心工作保障、项目期限、健康、减少预算,增加税收,房产市场,世界贫困,我们孩子的安全,甚至天气。有些事情我们可以控制,另一些我们显然不能。在生活中保持积极的态度的关键是懂得如何区别对待。
I heard years ago that 92 percent of the things people worry about are beyond their control.
多年前我听到,人们所担心的东西,其中92%超出了他们的控制。
If you are troubled about something you can control, like whether you are going to lose your job, then step up your game. Come in early, stay late, offer to work on a weekend, or volunteer to take on additional responsibilities; do anything you can think of to increase your value. If you end up losing your job, you can bet you’ll get a better reference.
如果你陷入的困境是你所能控制的东西,比如你会失去你的工作,然后提升自我。早点开始,待到很晚,周末工作,或自愿承担额外的责任,做任何你能想到的工作来增加你的价值。如果你失去工作,你可以打赌,你会得到一个更好的工作引荐信。
If you are concerned about your health, exercise regularly, eat a well-balanced diet, and refrain from smoking.
如果你担心健康,经常锻炼,摄取营养均衡的饮食,避免吸烟。
On the other hand, if you find yourself worrying about something like the safety of your son or daughter serving in the military, whether the government is going to raise taxes, or whether the coming storm will deluge you with rain, understand that there’s no action you can take to make any impact on these events or circumstances.
另一方面,如果你发现自己担心类似情况的,在军队服役的儿子或女儿的安全,政府是否会增加税收,或者即将到来的风暴是否会带来倾盆大雨导致洪水泛滥,你明白你不能采取任何行动,影响这些事件或情况。
You cannot control these things; worrying about them will just cause stress and affect your overall attitude. In the long term, worrying about what you can’t control puts your health, happiness, and longevity at risk.
你无法控制这些事情,担心他们只会导致压力,影响你的整体态度。从长远来看,担心你所控制不了的,会给你带来健康,幸福,长寿的风险。
Make a list of the things you worry about. Divide that list into two categories:
列出你担心的事情。把这个列表分为两类:
1. Concerns you can do something about
1。关注你可以做些什么
2. Concerns beyond your control
2。关注你无法控制的
Beside each of the items you can control, include an action item. For instance, if you worry about the ten pounds you’ve recently gained, put together a plan to do something about it. If you’re concerned about an impending deadline, make a list of all the things required to get the project completed.
在每一个你可以控制项目的旁边,列入一个行动项。例如,如果您操心你最近获得了10磅,建立一个计划拿这些钱做点什么。如果你担心即将到来的最后期限,列出需要做的所有的事情,完成这个项目。
Make a commitment to attack everything within your control and be intentional about not worrying about the things you can’t. At first, you’ll find it hard not to worry about the things you can’t control, but if you use self-discipline and refuse to worry about them, it will become easier.
做出承诺,各个击破在你的控制范围内的所有一切,有意地不去担心,你不可能控制的事情。起初,你会发现很难不担心,你不能控制的事情,但如果你使用自律,拒绝担心,它会变得更加容易。
One of the traits of positive people is that they don’t worry about things they can’t control.
积极的人的特征之一是,他们并不担心他们无法控制的事情。